I won't keep such friend in the first place

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I won't keep such friend in the first place

I take issue with the idea of keeping secrets that could seriously damage someone's life. The gravity and harm of such confidential information would weigh on me too heavily. Plus, I hesitate to enable bitter grudges by being complicit through silence. Instead, I believe speaking up against injustice, regardless of who perpetrates it, demonstrates true loyalty to our shared humanity.

Of course, I would not take revealing sensitive information lightly either. There are situations and ethical dilemmas where paths forward seem unclear. But ultimately, I could not in good conscience conceal misconduct that inflicts significant suffering if other options failed. My conscience guides me more than demands for complicity.

In my view, agreeing to bury destructive secrets conflicts with valuing both justice and genuine friendship. True caring sometimes requires intervening against wrongdoing, not enabling it. And covering up serious harms for anyone's sake strikes me as an unethical betrayal of trust in society's shared good.

I prefer keeping company with those who recognize that we all make mistakes but choose accountability when causing real harm. I cannot relate to holding spiteful grudges and desiring to shatter lives over personal slights or vengeance. We have all likely been both slighted and the slighter at times. 'Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.'

In situations where a friend confides behavior that alarms my moral principles, I would first advise them to make the situation right of their own volition before things escalate. I know weight of conscience and would aim to appeal to their innate goodness. But failing that, I could not stand idly by if their actions threatened serious consequences for other innocent people.

As difficult as it would be, I would need to put principle over loyalty to a single person in extreme cases where vulnerable folks stand to suffer without intervention. I must believe friendship also means helping each other stay on paths of courage and integrity even when difficult.

Of course, going to authorities as a last resort could still destroy relationships. Holding others accountable inevitably involves risk and sacrifice. But enabling further wrongdoing conflicts with my ethics too strongly, however comfortable staying silent may be. There are fates far heavier than losing relationships if it prevents tragedies.

In a better world, those who stray from conscience would be guided back with compassion. Repairing breaches through open dialogue remains ideal. But breaking confidence to defend those without power or voice is preferable to tacitly allowing the defenseless to be harmed. I strive to follow the wisdom: “Do what you know to be right.” Any other path feels unconscionable.

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