A few days ago I had a slight argument with an acquaintance I met through my sister some years ago, not physically but virtually.
Apparently the cause of the argument was his thought or view on a particular post that was made by someone else.
It was about relationships and as much as I can tell from the post, the writer had a very different approach to whatever he said on his post but this very acquaintance interpreted it the wrong way and still claimed he knew what he was saying.

I find it very disheartening when some people tend to sexualize everything about relationships, courtship or whatever the case may be.
I mean is sex the only determining factor of a good and lasting relationship? Must we sexualize everything we see, view physically and even on the internet?
We tend to rule out the fact that beautiful and lasting relationship can be cultivated with or without sex or any sexual activities.
Human preferences are different and there are still people who don't wanna engage in any form of sexual activities outside their matrimonial home.
It's not wrong to stick to your belief or what you want.
Your preference might not be another person's preference, so it all boils down to individual wants and needs.

So the idea of the post was for ladies to test their men for three months when they have their monthly period and see if these supposed boyfriends will still be the same with them.
And in my understanding and simple logical reasoning, it's for a fact that the writer said this with regards to how some men makes menstrual cramps of their women look like a burden to them.
The reality check could have mean that the result of the test could prove what these ladies may likely face in marriage.
"would their supposed boyfriends and intending spouse be there for them in those few days of hormonal and emotional torture?"
"or would they rather make it look like the period and cramps is some kind of a burden to them and they simply cannot condone the reactions and effects that comes with women's menstrual cramps and monthly flow?"

But this so called user, interpreted this in a way that really baffled me.
In his words he said would your boyfriend still date or be with you for those three months of not having sex or would they cheat when you are on your period
Like what level of shallow thoughts!?
I mean couldn't he have come up with anything other than sex?
I wasn't only baffled by his response to the post but even more with his subsequent responses when we approached the matter in his inbox.
The shallow thinking that all men are the same and they only want sex or are after sex
So disheartening and disgusting coming from a man.
He made a jest saying that I might think I know or understand men.
And if I've ever been in a sexual relationship before
C'mon, I don't need to be a man or to understand all men or to even be in a sexual relationship to know that people aren't the same no matter how perverted the world we are today seems.
No matter how bad it's getting, they are still responsible and thoughtful men and women out there.
There are a few decent ones too, so cut me the crab!
I don't draw conclusions on everyone because of one person's actions.

The actual problem we are having today is as a result of men and women like these sexualizing everything they see or hear.
Yes! Like how bad the world is getting, no one is safe anymore anywhere.
We hear stories of rape, assault and harassment left, right, center and issues like this one is why everyone feels that there are no responsible folks anymore and that they all want the same thing and does the same thing.

Let's draw another important lesson from this, how often do we draw conclusions on people based on one or two person's actions?
How often do we say things we haven't even seen or experienced ourselves just because someone else had fed us with stories about these things?
These are the issues, out of 100%, if 80% believes then the other 20% seems nonexistent.
For the love of God! Stop sexualizing everything.
We still have responsible people in the world!
SELAH!

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   13 September 2024 ~ Friday