Worthy relationships

True friendships are said to be the cheapest gift you could ever have, however, I’ve often noted this fact to be false. True friendship is, in fact, very expensive and I don’t mean that in terms of value, but in terms of money, time and resources, some of your most prized possessions as a human.
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Recently, I’ve found myself gradually slipping away from some friendships and putting in enough effort to maintain the few I consider worthy or worthwhile and that effort has been quite expensive but twice as rewarding. It’s remarkable, really.

In my relationships with my friends, I found out that being selfless happens to be the best way to relate with a lot of people as kindness is a common language to all. The ability to give resources, time and money without asking too many questions or expecting it to be reciprocated. It’s simple but very difficult.

What’s even more remarkable is how easy it is for people who aren’t fully vested in this relationship with me to turn around and claim to have never received kindness from me. It not only made me temporarily doubt myself but permanently discard a number of these individuals and focus on the ones that actually have regard for our relationship.

Understandably, there are a lot of people who do not see the value of relationships and are uninterested in investing anything in them. I can understand these individuals and respect their desire to live their lives in isolation. I just wasn’t built that way.

There is also another set of individuals who believe that your first set of friends should be your only set of friends. At some point, I would have completely accepted this ideology but I’ve seen too much and been to far too many places to only rely on just a particular set of people. Life goes beyond that.

Thankfully, I’ve been able to decipher and learn to not waste my time or resources on these people who don’t appreciate or reciprocate but focus on those who do. It has been both a rewarding and sad experience that I cherish beyond anything else.

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I totally understand your decision. There was a point when I made a similar call, though I took it to the ultimate consequences and erased/blocked dozens of people from my social media and my life all at once. It was HARD, but I don't regret it one bit. I needed the isolation for what I had to do and now that I've done it, I'm opening up to new relationships now, it's been going quite nicely.

I congratulate you on your choice!

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