{Eng-Esp} Is getting married an achievement?
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Achievements are like bucket lists which we tick on hitting certain hall marks, and are things we create for ourselves based on our interests in a bid to give our life a purpose. A life without purpose results in boredom.
Graduating from college, getting a dream job, travelling around the world, going to the beach, seeing a movie, and lots more are things people consider as achievements by simply following their heart.
Similarly, it would be wrong to impose the opinion of 'marriage as an achievement' on anyone because there are no fixed rules. As much as a certain percentage of people may consider marriage an important hallmark in their lives. Not everyone appreciates the concept of marriage due to certain reasons and situations which may have changed their mindset at some point in their lives.
Marriage and dating are not so different, except that in marriage, both parties are joined legally, which means that there is a more intense commitment, and going separate ways will becomes more difficult for them to split without going through a legal process. Which means that people can live a happy life with or without marriage since the difference is not so significant.
I've seen couples stay together for over twenty to thirty years without tying the knot, yet are comfortable and happy living together without any issues in their relationship, which proves that marriage is simply a mindset.
The very simple conclusion is that if you consider marriage an achievement to be ticked in your bucket list, there is no problem as long as it makes you happy. Similarly, if you do not consider it an achievement, then it's also not a problem provided you are happy with your decision.
It is in no one's power to impose an opinion on anyone because we have the right to our choices and opinion.
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Los logros son como listas de deseos que marcamos al alcanzar ciertas marcas de pasillo, y son cosas que creamos para nosotros mismos en función de nuestros intereses en un intento por darle a nuestra vida un propósito. Una vida sin propósito resulta en aburrimiento.
Graduarse de la universidad, conseguir un trabajo de ensueño, viajar por todo el mundo, ir a la playa, ver una película y mucho más son cosas que la gente considera como logros simplemente siguiendo su corazón.
Del mismo modo, sería un error imponer la opinión del 'matrimonio como un logro' a cualquier persona porque no hay reglas fijas. Tanto como un cierto porcentaje de personas puede considerar el matrimonio como un sello distintivo importante en sus vidas. No todos aprecian el concepto de matrimonio debido a ciertas razones y situaciones que pueden haber cambiado su mentalidad en algún momento de sus vidas.
El matrimonio y las citas no son tan diferentes, excepto que en el matrimonio, ambas partes se unen legalmente, lo que significa que hay un compromiso más intenso, e ir por caminos separados se volverá más difícil para ellos separarse sin pasar por un proceso legal. Lo que significa que las personas pueden vivir una vida feliz con o sin matrimonio, ya que la diferencia no es tan significativa.
He visto parejas permanecer juntas durante más de veinte a treinta años sin casarse, pero se sienten cómodas y felices viviendo juntas sin ningún problema en su relación, lo que demuestra que el matrimonio es simplemente una mentalidad.
La conclusión muy simple es que si consideras que el matrimonio es un logro que debe figurar en tu lista de deseos, no hay problema siempre y cuando te haga feliz. Del mismo modo, si no lo considera un logro, entonces tampoco es un problema siempre que esté satisfecho con su decisión.
Nadie está en el poder de imponer una opinión a nadie porque tenemos derecho a nuestras elecciones y opinión.
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Marriage is a stage in anyone's life, a path you may wish and wish not to take. People who believe marriage is an achievement in are definitely in the L.
Yes , thank you. It is nothing more than a stage which we may choose it choose not to tread. It shouldn't be enforced on anyone. Since it is simply a choice, achievements are simply based on individual mindsets.
I believe marriage is an achievement, because it will get to a stage in life when you are not married it makes you look irresponsible. By so doing you might not have a say among your peers.
Thanks for your opinion.
Well, which means your decision is solely based on what society decides for you. The greater question is.. 'do you really want it?'
At some point, people can only decide to tie the knot when they are ready and not because of some pressure. It's not an achievement in my opinion. And I don't think any one else should think that those who aren't married amount to nothing.
It's only a choice and shouldn't be enforced on anyone. And yes, I strongly believe it is not an achievement.
But unfortunately, society treats it that way. what a sad world we live
Considering marriage an achievement is a pretty harmless opinion, as long as the person understands the responsibilities that comes with that kind of a relationship and is up for it it doesn't really matter if they think it's an achievement or not.
Thank you for understanding that it is based on an individual mindset and isn't a default standard. Thank you.
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In my point of view, marriage can be considered as an achievement and because it is what people long for
If is is an achievement for you then it's okay, but generalising will be wrong. Achievements are a personal thing and shouldn't be imposed on anyone. I could get married without considering it am achievement. That's the truth.
Marriage is definitely an achievement in this side of the world it shows a level of responsibility and position of prestige one has gotten to
That is because in this part of the world, marriage is imposed on everyone by society withoutt having the choice to decide whether you actually want it or not.
I would call it an achievement but a phase that one would surely pass through. Not being married doesn't make you irresponsible or irrelevant. Being successful and impactful in life is what I call an achievement.
Don't go into marriage because you think it would bring you happiness or because you'll have someone to always laugh. Or should I say because you don't want people to look down on you.
Thank you o.. achievement is being responsible and impactful in your own way provided you're happy with your progress.
Marriage is just something you go intobecause you want to please people. Doesn't Doesn't that way. It's just stage you may choose choose attain in life if you want to, but not an achievement.
I wouldn't call it an achievement but a phase that one would surely pass through. Not being married doesn't make you irresponsible or irrelevant. Being successful and impactful in life is what I call an achievement.
Don't go into marriage because you think it would bring you happiness or because you'll have someone to always laugh. Or should I say because you don't want people to look down on you.
Depending on your mentality, it might be an achievement, and it might not be. But to me, marriage is a step stone in man's life whose on his way to fatherhood.
Point well said. it depends on individual's mentality and mindset regarding the subject of marriage.
But fatherhood can occur without marriage. Marriage is simply a way of sealing the knot. Isn't it?
I can't call marriage an achievement but it is an achievement. Those people who spend years together without getting married, what actually is their aim. You're with a lady or a guy for 20 to 30 year and still yet to define what kind of relationship it is. That's unthinkable because if they have children together without going through the right channel. They are married in one way or the other because children are the fruit of marriage
Make up your mind already. 😄 🤣 😂
That's not right. Children are products of something as simple as sexual intercourse and not marriage.
Hmm
Perfecto! It is indeed relative. What works for Mr A., would most likely not work for Mr B. Indeed we should learn to tolerate others' choices, as long as it doesn't hurt anybody. Interesting take bruh.
Unfortunately, the ability to tolerate others' opinion is not something that a majority grew up with in the African society.
Thanks ma'am! I really appreciate the comment.
You're right!