Cheat and Confrontation - "No Mercy" [W E - 164]

It took a heavy heart to go back into the dark memory lane that really helped to mature up a bit. Life in itself a great learning school and this is clear with my first experince of being cheated in love. Born and bought up in a middle class brahmin family, we are very sensitive by heart and understand the value of keeping any relation safe. Not much influenced with western culture of getting into multiple relation, I too get into a relationship with utmost trust and faith. But the problem is it was a long distance relation. Sounds strange but this was happened to me and I went well head over heel to keep the relation loyal as much as possible from my end.

One from the memory lane, a message on holding our scattered life together

Long Distance Relationship

The problem with long distance relationship is that it hangs over a very thin line of trust and faith. A slight doubt or suspicion will surely spoil the fun and enjoyment of life. It was not with us, and we spend long hours on messenger / Skype/ and chat rooms. But her official visit to India simply took away all the charm.

Cheating & Confrontation.

It generally happens that, When someone cheats in a relation, one will notice a complete change of behaviour and approach. I began noticing in our relation too and started looking out for the reason. It did not took me long to find the exchange of some explicit messages over her personal email.

The problem of being brought up in a middle class family is that we only know loyality and trusting blindly we are more sober and does not keep any grudges with anyone. When some one broke that trust then it takes good amount of toll to recover as it get painful and disheartening. Mustering all my courage in midst of my sorrow and grief time I straightway confronted during her Indian stay.

No Room for Mercy

A disheartened soul never know how to forgive. In middle of all her pleading , crying, applogizing, I only knew one thing to get over the relation. A week visit to India had shown me some unknown faces of her and I do not want to let her to play with my heart again. She termed it as her mistake, but by that time I alrasdy realize my mistake too of trusting someone so blindly who belongs from a completelly different culture and lifestyle. Not creating much of fuss at that heat of the moment. It all happened on the last day of her India stay. I let her go next day with an inner promise made not to see her again. I becomes more stronger that day.

random pic sent by her

I am just like that, we were not taught to deceive or to cheat and we expect the same from others too. But expectation reduces joy. A first learning in love is enough to be alert and never allow any second chance to play with my heart. Since then, I never let her to convince me again. Though we have little conversation in between, But a broken soul is not ready to accept the infedility of her. It is over a decade now, and we both move on with our respective life.

After mustering all my courage I thought to be a part of @galenkp weekend-engagement to offload some of those old memory and I am feeling bit lighter.

I want to leave a message hereon:

any relationship is a pure feeling of togetherness. If both the partners have a real trust and faith then never let it to be broken with any kind of infedility. If any of them doesn't find it worth going then discuss the matter openly with their partner and let it go with mutual understanding. Cheating behind the back and playing over the trust & faith is not good.

respect your relationship

I am not sure if I did the right thing or not. I too would had open conversation but once the trust broken in long distance relation then it is not easy to mend. Many reader would have their saying. I like to know your perspective as well, what you would had done in such scenario.?

Peace!!

Namaste @steemflow