LA MEJOR CONVERSACIÓN SE LOGRA EMPLEANDO EL ARTE DE ESCUCHAR CON EMPATÍA [ESP-ENG]

Hello dear @Holos&Lotus community, in this great opportunity that you present to me I want to share my point of view on the initiative of the week How are your conversations? That more than being a simple question invites us to reflect on those long, good or bad moments of our lives where we develop our conversations with someone in our family or social environment.

Conversation is a true art, it represents expressing your ideas in a clear and concise way and right there is the art involved, because it is not an easy task that the message you are transmitting can be clearly understood by another individual, hence it is necessary to use our ingenuity to facilitate this process.

This is undoubtedly a challenge that must always be overcome by all speakers, because when they are going to develop their thematic the purpose of it is that the message is transmitted and subsequently received effectively, this in the broadest sense, now let's be a little more specific.

Conversation is a basic tool that is present throughout our lives at different times we make rational and improper use of it to express our ideas. I would dare to say that in general terms 90% of the female population uses dialogue, however, I could not assure that they make an adequate use of it.

And I make reference to women, because statistics say that women use more frequently the tool of conversation, since in the different moments of their daily lives they always share their opinions at home, at the hairdresser's, with the manicurist, in social gatherings and other spaces, all this in comparison with men and with this I do not want to discriminate anyone I am just being realistic and correct me if I have a wrong conception in this regard.

I particularly think that the best way to manage an effective conversation is to use the art of empathic listening, which consists of being an individual who is emotionally aware of the other person's situation, knowing how to listen, putting yourself in their shoes and being considerate of them during their approach.

This would result in a pleasant conversation, where many emotions will flow and in the same way, awareness and reflection will be used in our opinions regarding the topic raised, since in one way or another you will be reflected in the situation that is being discussed.

Starting from this premise, I want to give an answer to each of the following questions Do you consider that you know how to converse , if we talk about it in quantitative terms from 1 to 10 I could say that I am in level 5, since conversing does not involve accepting without any argument all the ideas that are expressed, but also contributing your opinion on the matter and I have the bad habit of interrupting the conversations that I establish with other people before they finish developing their main idea and in fact I even give my opinion without having the whole picture clear.

But this is a situation that I have been working hard on for a couple of months now, because when I started the process of putting myself in my neighbor's shoes, I have moderated my interruptions and I am more analytical and reflective when it comes to contributing my idea, and I would even dare to say that this has given me excellent results.

What do you value most in a person with whom you like to converse?, something very important that the person with whom you converse must have is to be a good listener who does not feel the center of attention and allows me to express my observations about the conversation that we are developing and in the same way can give me a nourishing advice about it.

However, the latter would not be an indispensable requirement, since at times we just need someone to listen to us attentively, even if they are mute and can not provide a personal opinion, being able to vent from time to time is something rewarding that can make you feel liberated.

What benefits do you find in conversing with others? Being able to converse with others allows me to broaden my outlook on life and also to exchange ideas with others, which would help me to learn about different perspectives and new horizons.

And you, what do you think you bring to them? I am one of those people that I am not known for being able to keep quiet when someone talks to me, that is why depending on the topic of conversation, being able to give a word of encouragement, a good advice is part of my main characteristics, because my motto is that anyone who needs a helping hand here I am here to listen and support you in whatever you need.

This is something intrinsic that I can't control, my husband always tells me I don't know how you don't run out of words and you always have a topic of conversation with someone, I can't be like that. I particularly consider myself a good listener and bring my point of view to the conversation and if it is a topic I don't handle I tend to ask a lot of questions to get to know it.

What aspect do you consider indispensable in any conversation? is learning to listen with empathy as I mentioned before, this will help you to be more understanding and reflective on the topic of conversation, being able to have the ability to visualize the situation from the shoes of the person who is presenting it to you, will undoubtedly give you the ability to have a positive conversation.

That is why my invitation is focused on developing the art of listening with empathy and in this way we can establish nourishing conversations for life.

With this I say goodbye, but not before inviting my friend @madridbg, @cajiro and @crish23, to participate in this beautiful @Holos&Lotus initiative .

Thank you for dedicating part of your time and reading my work. Blessings