Self-Love: I Found My True Identity

All everyone talks about these days is self-love. Love yourself, your looks, be confident, bla bla. Sure, at some point in our lives, we realize that's very important. To actually love anyone, you have to be capable of loving, and I guess that starts with loving yourself. Thinking about it, I think it's so hard for some of us because we know our weaknesses.

One thing I've come to realize is that loving yourself and loving your looks are two different things, though they both require deliberate efforts, unless you were born pretty, of course. Some of us, our throwbacks are the perfect memes.

I rarely get bitter at my parents, but I can't help it sometimes. The last time I was angry was when I saw my siblings' report cards and realized I wasn't the family dullard after all the years of scolding. You can imagine my pain.

When I was little, my dad used to call me the most beautiful girl ever. Now that's a deception I can't get over 🤧. Perhaps he was speaking about inner beauty? Nah, I'm the most stubborn one in my family, it can't be. Some of y'all flaunt your childhood pictures? You'll never see mine. Like ever (in Taylor Swift's voice).

When I was in primary school, I was part of the school's cultural dance group. At one time, I led the team. I wasn't really self-conscious, but everyone likes to be seen. That time, I used to sing so well and wanted to be the center of attention, of course, but I seemed to be doing something wrong. Instead, there were these two kids I grew up with who were always the focus anytime we went for gigs. It took me a while to realize why, but now I no longer get angry at those people because I would've done the same. I mean, who can resist super cute kids?

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My self love story...

How did I start to love my looks? I saw a movie, that's how.

The Lord of the Rings will remain one of my favorite movies of all time. Have you ever seen a movie and fallen in love with a character? Legolas was one of my first crushes ever! Legolas was the only elf in the Fellowship of the Ring; he's the coolheaded and skilled guy. Legolas was probably the only sane person in the fellowship, and he was unattached. Tall, kind, skilled, and with a pretty face, who wouldn't fall for a guy like that?

You must be wondering how Legolas is related to my self-love story. Some years ago,I took a photo, and I liked it so much I kept admiring it. This photo 👇🏾

I noticed something unusual about the shape of my ear. See, I'm someone who used to like to be "normal," but I doubt I'll ever be. Noticing the unusual piqued my interest. I proceeded to observe my ears in the mirror, and one person came to mind. Guess who? Legolas!

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I had ears like Legolas! That was my breakthrough (sighs).

I later learned from my wicked brother that it was an anomaly when I was born, and my mum had to shape that ear. It didn't matter to me anyway; my ear looked like Legolas', and that was it for me!

In this age where we are now free to share our secret identities with the world, I believe I identify with the elves of Middle Earth. And note my description; since we're all so sensitive and specific about our identities, don't mistake mine. I don't identify with elves, I identify with elves of middle earth. I'm emphasizing this so you don't start thinking about Sekani while watching Harry Potter or Elves; that would break my heart.

Don't misunderstand me. I'm not discriminating against other elves. In fact, I admire Dobby so much. I mean, take a look at Dobby

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I think Dobby was absolutely lovely, loyal, funny, and everything you could wish for in a house elf. With a snap of his fingers, he makes cool things happen. He fancies absolutely filthy socks as well, admirable, right? Dobby was a loyal friend of Harry's, and that's really commendable. I was really pained when Dobby died; it was sad for me. Fortunately, we bear no physical resemblance.

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I keep finding absolutely fascinating things about myself, and I love myself more, like my pointed nose and naturally overflowing brows. Don't check.

Have you ever seen a movie and felt like you bore a resemblance to a fictional character? Let's hear

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Myself and Legolas wish you a day as beautiful as we are.

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Thanks for reading through. Much love ❤❤❤