Hello Dear Ladies of Hive Community ❤️

It is a pleasure for me again to participate in the weekly contest of this community and express my opinion and thoughts about it. I want to publicly express my thanks to @trangbaby for creating this innovative initiative, where I know that many people will participate because of how beautiful it is. It is well known that the subject of love is very extensive in different areas but those of us who have experienced it and have been corresponded with our orange measure, we can speak from our experience and tell our version of this beautiful feeling. Without further ado, here's what I think and have experienced about love 💗Thanks to @nathyortiz for inviting me to this wonderful initiative.

🇺🇲 1. How do you know when you are in love? What are the signs?

I dare to confess that when I was in love I even wrote a love poem about the person I loved at a certain time in my life. I was young, I was in college and I fell in love to the point of thinking that I was going to die the day that person left me, literally. I didn't die, but it did hurt a lot when it was over.

I think it's not just about tangible signs like giving gifts to the person you love. It is about coinciding with a person with whom we share similar tastes, that when you see him or her your face lights up and a silly smile is drawn on your face, that beyond wanting to be together you achieve many purposes and dreams together and it should be noted that you must share the same principles (I tell you in advance). Even if you talk about like-minded tastes, I also have to remember to show some interest in others that you don't share. For example: my husband and I like Harry Potter. But on the other hand he likes to collect and resell Warhammer 40,000 figures. I show interest when he tells me things about that theme and when he is involved in painting his figures. That means I love him. Just like I love to do crafts and he asks me about the materials or supplies I need to do a certain project. Each of us separately performs an activity that we like and that does not mean that we will stop loving each other. All couples should also have time as individuals because in this way the relationship becomes more rooted.

Being in love is not about being stuck together 24/7 like chewing gum. It is also about wanting to be together but also respecting each other's space so that everything works very well. I must also recognize that many times we let a beautiful experience pass us by with someone who would give anything to make us happy and life is too short for regrets. Being in love is not just about being next to a person with a pretty face and a nice body, love goes beyond the physical, it is also about connecting with your soul mate and very few match it. There are many people in unhappy relationships and they don't leave because they are emotionally dependent and there are others who leave everything they know to get into an adventure looking for the love of their life.

🇺🇲 2. Does love come on suddenly or grow over time? What are your keys
to ensure your relationship remains strong and healthy?

I find this question interesting because some time ago I wrote about my dynamic in love with my husband in the following post: [https://hive.blog/hive-110011/@royvego55/como-mantener-una-relacion-sana-de-pareja-how-to-maintain-a-healthy-relationship-as-a-couple]

From my experience, human beings fall in love in different chronologies of time. First, in the adolescent age you think you are going to die and suffer in silence for the person you are in love with. It is a fleeting romance, tender, without morbidity. You imagine how cute and cuckoo you would look together. You have a list of how you want that person to be with you, even though his or her personality and way of being are the complete opposite. You write in your diary how you feel about it and think that your only concern is to draw hearts with your name and your lover's name on them without anyone knowing.

When you're in your 20's, you think you're a big shot for having a lot of guys after you. You even think you've graduated from the school of life when you think you've found the love of your life when the person you like hits it off with you, starts seeing you differently and asks you out on a date. Or why not? A person you thought was unreachable starts hitting on you and asks you to go out. You can't believe it, again you think you're in a dream, you have an amazing time, you think it will be forever but often it's not.

As you reach adulthood, you begin to see love differently. Rather than wanting fireworks like a 4th of July in the USA, you want someone focused, down to earth. Someone who is capable of doing three times for you, what you are willing to do for him. It's no longer about being sweaty-handed boyfriends, it's about who becomes your safe zone and you feel protected. Let the simple fact of walking together holding hands be something magical and fun. Even if you are related beings, you know that everyone has their own space and radom things they like to do, but that someone must walk in the same direction as you. Either in some goal, objective or dream together because if not forget it!

Just as there are many unrequited loves seeing your other half being happy with the love of your life, there are others that come out of nowhere and become beautiful, unique and strong. I speak from experience, because it happened to me.... A person who did not believe she was destined in life for anyone, who did not spend more than three or four months in a relationship because everything bored her and I met love where I least expected it.

I made so many mistakes before I realized that my current husband is the love of my life but here we are: we emigrated and living together in another country, we have our first child whom we love madly 😍 and we have a very clear couple and family dynamic. Every day is not good, some are average and some are great, but we love each other and are there for each other when we need each other the most. And that's what love in a couple is all about, wanting to spend your days with the one you love and make their life a fireworks show of a 4th of July in the USA. Because if we don't love to the fullest, why waste time and make the other person waste it? Sometimes we do not remember that life is only one and we must love without limits or boxes to cross out. Sometimes it feels nice to let go and other times to open our eyes and know where we want to be.

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