We cannot deny that the search for personal development has grown a lot in recent years, however, some people seek development to grow in business, earn more money, succeed and others simply to reach their potential as human beings.

I've highlighted some mistakes that we've made in the journey of personal development.

Lack of awareness.

A mistake we often make in personal development is a lack of awareness.

When I say about lack of awareness, I mean the person knowing better about their thoughts and feelings.

If you are aware of your feelings and thoughts, you can change your actions and thus their result.

For example: "My boss stresses me a lot, I would like to change jobs or work alone."

Stress is our body's physical response to a stimulus. It all depends on how your feelings and thoughts respond to this stimulus, so we can say that stress is a feeling caused by your thinking. This is never caused by something outside of you (your boss, your job, your lack of money).

Until you are aware of your thoughts and control of your emotions, you will enter a perpetual cycle and this will take you away from your personal development.

How to handle it:

Try to meditate to know your thoughts better;

Identify stress triggers so you can understand what triggers these thoughts and feelings.

Comparing yourself with other people hinders personal development.

This is a big problem for people and I usually feel more complaints about this issue with women, I notice that a good part likes to compare themselves.

I believe that this behavior is human nature, in fact, I feel that people have the need to compare things in order to have a parameter or model.

An attitude that is very harmful is the comparison we make on social media like Instagram or Facebook.

We usually look at someone else's life and judge the photo.

Example: "She has more money than me." "Her life is easier than mine." "I wanted to be happy like her."

Remember, when you compare yourself to another person, it doesn't matter how “happy/rich/good” you think that person is. She is also human and has the same emotions and feelings as you.

It's normal to compare, but it's not reality. You have to stop your own brain and focus on your life purpose.

Letting the past define the future hinders personal development

Most of us do this without knowing it. We believe in limiting beliefs and letting them define us.

Example: "I don't want to have a relationship with anyone else because my ex-husband cheated on me."

It's just your brain repeating thoughts from the past and letting a negative experience cripple your future.

Blaming others for the results you have in your life.

I see many people complaining that they do not earn enough or that they are not with a person who values ​​them, however when I ask about what courses she took in the last year or how she/he treats the partner/partner, I always hear the silence.

No one will pay you more to do something you already do for less. This is a fact.

Usually, people who complain about their professional development are people who have not had their curriculum updated in recent years. He didn't take a new course, didn't take a postgraduate course, didn't learn a new language or get some certification.

Example: "So and so was promoted because he is a friend of the boss." or "So and so has everything easy, because he has a rich family." or "I don't work at a nice company because my parents didn't pay me great schools."

Your life is full of results.

If you do the same things over and over again, it's impossible to reap different results.

Whoever plants papaya does not harvest pineapple.

How much money you earn is the result of what you've done.
Your relationship status is a result of how you act with your partner.
Where you live is a result.

You created it all, above all this is the best news ever.

That means you can change, plus you don't have to wait for the new year. Get started today!

I hope it made your day a little better.
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