LOH Community Contest #167: When nothing is what it seems || Cuando nada es lo que parece
Before starting with my experience of what 2023 represented, I want to wish all the ladies of the Ladies of Hive community a wonderful 2024, may abundance always be present in your lives; abundance, in health, in money, in joys, in magical moments, in smiles, in love, in projects come true and may happiness be such that you never know whether you are dreaming or living it.
On the other hand, I want to thank my dear @sacra97 for inviting me to participate in this initiative, after having been away for a while due to health issues. Also, I want to invite @zhanavic69 and @slwzl to join in and share their experiences from this past year.
1️⃣ Is there a special person or moment you'd like to thank for making 2023 a great year? Or could you just leave us a few words of thanks for this year behind us?
For sure, yes. I know that maybe what I write now, is not what you are expecting, because everything should be nice and everything should be kind of love and peace, but I want to share with you my reality and be completely honest. Not everything is always rosy, there are shades, there are dark tones many times.
I want to thank my two older brothers, because they tried to make my life as miserable as it can be, they plunged me into the mud, then reached out trying to save my life and then, push me back. But despite their efforts, they didn't succeed, I'm still standing, I'm still here.
This year that passed, I cried a lot, many times the idea of ending my life, went through my head. I thought that if I left, my son would be better off, because at least he would have the possibility to study in a good school, to have health insurance, the fridge full of the food he likes the most and he would be happy, because he would have all that I have not been able to give him.
It was him, my son, who made me realize how wrong I was.
One day, he discovered me crying and in the middle of my tears I told him that I didn't know at what point my family was broken and what he said to me, shocked me.....
"Mommy, the family has always been broken. Just because you wanted to see something else, doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. My grandparents were the ones who held it together and now that they are gone, your brothers have shown who they are. You have always justified their attitudes and excused them when they have offended you, because for them, to offend is to tell the truth. But when it is you who wanted to tell the truth, they stop talking to you and tell you that you need therapy.
That's why you always keep quiet, to avoid arguing. But they have hurt you. You've always been there when they've needed you and when you've needed them, they're just not there. No excuses. They just disappear. I wish you would realize for once, that the two of us, you and I, are our only family.
Yes, there have been fun times, but you have to understand that they don't see you in the same light. My aunt has always been manipulative and my uncle, he lets himself be manipulated by her. My grandma always told you that. They are just for a few fun times, but that's as far as it goes."
That, roughly, is what he told me. I was struck by the maturity of his words, I was struck by how analytical his thoughts were and I could only burst into tears and hug him. How right he is!
For that, I want to thank my son, only thirteen years old, for making me see reality, for making me wake up once and for all, for being my teacher.
2️⃣ share with us what skills you have and want to put into practice this new year. Maybe you have a project in mind?
Although I have discovered that crafting is something I love, especially recycling, I plan to continue with it as a hobby. But my project has always been in my mind, sometimes I add some details, I polish it, perfecting it in my mind, because I know that someday, I will make it a reality.
And that is to be able to build an old people's home. It is a dream I have had for many years. In the first place, because I feel a special weakness towards the elderly, it seems to me that they are fragile little people, who need love, affection, support and that after having raised children, having given them education, many have been abandoned to their fate. In my country, the mistreatment of the elderly is alarming, the old people's homes are places where they mix any pathology, where food, cleanliness, cleanliness and good treatment, leave much to be desired.
My vision has always been to have a huge, beautiful house, with beautiful gardens, waterfalls surrounded by colorful flowers, large and comfortable dining rooms, comfortable rooms and rooms to watch movies, play games, dance therapy, meditation, etc.).
I had the opportunity to work with a non-profit group of people called Doctor Yaso, which is the equivalent of Patch Adams or hospital clowns, for some time and we visited hospitals, nursing homes, orphanages and therefore, I know what it is like to live in these facilities. And I can tell you that it is really gratifying to see the joy of the patients when we would come to visit them.
There would be specialist doctors on duty once a week: cardiologists, nutritionists, internists, geriatricians, psychologists, pneumologists, physiatrists, psychotherapists.
Patients would have their own space, according to their medical condition, and would be attended according to their pathologies and needs.
This is my project, which I hope to be able to crystallize someday.
Antes de iniciar con mi experiencia de lo que representó el 2023, quiero desear a todas las damas de la comunidad Ladies of Hive un maravilloso 2024, que la abundancia siempre esté presente en sus vidas; abundancia, en salud, en dinero, en alegrías, en momentos mágicos, en sonrisas, en amor, en proyectos hechos realidad y que la felicidad sea tal, que nunca sepan distinguir entre si lo están soñando, o lo están viviendo.
Por otro lado, quiero agradecer a mi querida @sacra97 por haberme invitado a participar en esta iniciativa, después de haber estado un rato alejada por cuestiones de salud. Asimismo, quiero invitar a @zhanavic69 y a @slwzl para que se unan y compartan sus experiencias de este año pasado.
1️⃣ ¿Hay alguna persona o momento especial al que quieras dar las gracias por hacer de 2023 un gran año? ¿O simplemente podrías dejarnos unas palabras de agradecimiento por este año que dejamos atrás?
Con toda seguridad, sí. Sé que tal vez lo que escriba ahora, no es lo que están esperando, porque todo debe ser bonito y todo debe ser tipo amor y paz, pero quiero compartirles mi realidad y ser completamente honesta. No todo siempre es color de rosa, hay matices, hay tonos oscuros muchas veces.
Quiero dar las gracias a mis dos hermanos mayores, porque trataron de hacer mi vida lo más miserable que se pueda, me hundieron en el fango, para luego extender la mano tratando de salvar mi vida y después, empujarme de nuevo. Pero a pesar de sus esfuerzos, no lo han logrado, aún sigo de pie, aún sigo aquí.
Este año que pasó, lloré muchísimo, muchas veces la idea de acabar con mi vida, pasó por mi cabeza. Pensaba que si yo me iba, mi hijo estaría mejor, porque al menos, tendría la posibilidad de estudiar en un buen colegio, de tener un seguro médico, la nevera llena con la comida que más le gusta y sería feliz, porque tendría todo eso que yo no le he podido dar.
Fue él mismo, mi hijo, quien me hizo darme cuenta de lo equivocada que estaba.
Un día, él me descubrió llorando y en medio de mis lágrimas le dije que no sabía en qué momento mi familia se había roto y lo que me dijo, me impactó...
"Mami, la familia siempre ha estado rota. Que tú querías ver otra cosa, no significa que sea lo correcto. Mis abuelitos eran quienes los mantenían unidos y ahora que ellos no están, tus hermanos han demostrado quienes son. Siempre has justificado sus actitudes y los has disculpado cuando te han ofendido, porque para ellos, ofender, es decir la verdad. Pero cuando eres tú quien ha querido decir la verdad, te dejan de hablar y te dicen que necesitas terapia.
Por eso te quedas callada siempre, para evitar discutir. Pero ellos te han hecho daño. Tú siempre has estado cuando ellos te han necesitado y cuando tú los has necesitado a ellos, simplemente no están. Sin excusas. Solamente se desaparecen. Ojalá te dieras cuenta de una vez, que nosotros dos, tú y yo, somos nuestra única familia.
Sí, han pasado momentos divertidos, pero tienes que entender que ellos no te ven con los mismos ojos. Mi tía siempre ha sido manipuladora y mi tío, se deja manipular por ella. Mi abuelita siempre te lo dijo. Ellos solo son para pasar algunos momentos divertidos, pero hasta ahí."
Eso, a grosso modo, es lo que me dijo. Me impactó la madurez de sus palabras, me impactó lo analítico de sus pensamientos y solo pude echarme a llorar y abrazarlo. ¡Cuánta razón tiene!
Por eso, quiero agradecer a mi hijo de tan solo trece años, por hacerme ver la realidad, por haberme hecho despertar de una vez por todas, por ser mi maestro.
2️⃣ Comparte con nosotros qué habilidades tienes y quieres poner en práctica este nuevo año. ¿Quizá tienes algún proyecto en mente?
A pesar de que he descubierto que hacer manualidades, es algo que me encanta, sobre todo el tema del reciclaje, pienso continuar en ello, a manera de pasatiempo. Pero mi proyecto siempre ha estado en mi mente, a veces le agrego algunos detalles, lo voy puliendo, perfeccionándolo en mi mente, porque sé que algún día, lo haré realidad.
Y es poder construir un ancianato. Es un sueño que tengo desde hace muchos años. En primer lugar, porque siento una debilidad especial hacia los viejitos, me parece que son personitas frágiles, que necesitan cariño, afecto, apoyo y que después de haber criado hijos, haberles dado educación, muchos han sido abandonados a su suerte. En mi país, el maltrato a las personas de la tercera edad, es alarmante, los ancianatos son lugares donde mezclan cualquier patología, donde la alimentación, la pulcritud, la limpieza y el buen trato, dejan mucho que desear.
Mi visión siempre ha sido tener una casa enorme, linda, con preciosos jardines, cascadas rodeadas de flores de alegres colores, amplios y cómodos comedores, habitaciones cómodas y salas para ver películas, salas de juegos, de bailoterapia, de meditación, etcétera).
Yo tuve la oportunidad de trabajar con un grupo de personas, sin fines de lucro, llamada Doctor Yaso, que es el equivalente a Patch Adams o payasos de hospital, durante algún tiempo y visitamos hospitales, ancianatos, orfanatos y por eso, sé lo que se vive en estos recintos. Y les cuento que es realmente gratificante ver la alegría de los pacientes cuando llegábamos a visitarlos.
Contaría con médicos especialistas que cumplirían guardia una vez por semana: cardiólogos, nutricionistas, internistas, geriatras, psicólogos, neumólogos, fisiatras, psicoterapeutas.
Los pacientes tendrían su espacio, según su condición médica, serían atendidos de acuerdo a sus patologías y necesidades.
Ese es mi proyecto, que espero poder cristalizar algún día.
Que valiente y hermoso es tu hijo, esta lleno de amor e inteligencia sin duda alguna. A veces tenemos que escuchar esa voz interior, interior porque vino de nuestro vientre. Muchísimo éxito y gracias por acudir al reto. Un abrazo @purrix
How brave and beautiful your son is, he is full of love and intelligence without a doubt. Sometimes we have to listen to that inner voice, inner because it came from our belly. Great success and thank you for taking on the challenge. A hug @purrix
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Qué bonito eso... "Nuestra voz interior, porque vino de nuestro vientre".
Es así, es increíble que alguien que apenas comienza a vivir, a experimentar la vida, pueda ser mi maestro. Son estas cosas las que merecen la pena, por las que uno da las gracias a Dios, por estas maravillosas bendiciones.
Gracias mi niña, gracias por tus palabras tan bonitas ;)
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Tu niño lo es todo amiga, así me siento yo con el mio, el es quien me ha salvado en más de una ocasión. Un abrazo enorme y se que ese sueño del ancianato algún día será un éxito 🙌
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Si, @irenenavarroart, son despertares dolorosos, son descubrimientos que uno no se imagina experimentar. Y como tú, por mi hijo, es que sigo adelante, pero las ganas de renunciar a veces me han tentado mucho.
Te abrazo, amiga. ✨
it's good that you have your son that shows you and make you realized the truth. ❤️ It's nice to know how matured he is to gave you words that you didn't imagine. May your life be fulled with love and happiness together with your son ♥️
What a nice message, thank you!!! The truth is that little guy is my great teacher. He came to teach me, because he has the soul of an old man, he analyzes things a lot and when I am talking to him or to someone else, it seems as if he is not paying attention and suddenly he gives me answers that leave me speechless.
I leave you a hug and thank you for your beautiful comment... 🤗
Envisioning a better welfare for our seniors is s noble cause, it is one of the reasons I chose to be a Nurse as was first a volunteer at a Residential Care home.
You volunteered in a nursing home? What a beautiful job! There is nothing nicer than social work, than bringing company and a little love to these special beings who can no longer fend for themselves.
A hug, @kerrislravenhill 🌼
Our children are like angels who, if we realize it, take care of us and fill us with strength to keep going, even if we are very tired. God bless you and your son, friend, you are a brave and admirable woman. Hopefully one day you can achieve your goals, I hope this new year comes full of success in your life. Hugs, and thanks for your participation.
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Hello! Your words brought tears to my eyes, bless you, thank you! It really isn't easy, but as you say, our children give us that strength, that courage we need to keep going. For them, anything!
I am shocked to know that family could be a reason for someone's experience miserable. After reading this, I am now convinced it's a blessing to have supporting siblings.
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Keep Up the good work on Hive ♦️
This is so touching, you have a brave son. One day, your dream of creating the old people's home will be a reality.
Please be strong for you and your son, there are better days ahead.
Thank you, what words so full of tenderness, I thank you infinitely.
I hope to achieve my dream, because the elderly are very important to me.
Thank you for what you tell me about my son, the truth is that he is my driving force in life!
You're most welcome.
I'm so glad you have such a sweet son and I'm excited about your dream for the elderly.
God bless you ma'am 🙏🏻
How nice your comment, very nice. Thank you, thank you, thank you! God bless you too.
It was nice reading your article. You are definitely a strong woman, despite so much issues you are being strong. Never thing to end up your life for those who do not value your importance, live for that person, your son, and show what you are to the people who betrayed you. That will make your son stronge who inturn will take care of you. All the very best my dear friend.
@purrix que belleza de publicación!! En lo primero, te felicito por tener un hijo tan despierto y maduro, a ciencia cierta es tu compañero en las buenas y las malas, eso es una bendición! Y tu proyecto con los ancianos es precioso 💖 échale ganas. Aquí en mi localidad hay un asilo para mayores y sus familiares lo han convertido en un depósito de viejitos, pero la comunidad siempre está abierta a apoyar y con regularidad hay organizaciones y hasta escuelas que le llevan un ratito de alegría a esas criaturas preciosas. Recibe un abrazo lleno de mucho cariño @purrix y espero que tengas más temporadas soleadas que nubladas. 😘