A Different Kind Of Maturity

I've come to realize that when we talk about growth in people, there are different stages that comes with it. Some of them could be growth with our finances, where we no longer spend foolishly because we're now financially responsible, another could be growth with our emotions and how we react towards things, which actually will be what I will be talking about today.

But before we dive into the topic, I first would like to say that one of the best things a parent could do for their kids, is to send them into the world at certain ages for them to experience things for themselves. And I say that because I feel like there are a lot of things that we can only learn when we're by ourselves and no longer under the shadows of our parents who always try to shield and protect us, which actually isn't necessarily a bad thing but also hinders us sometimes from learning certain things at certain age.

Luckily for us, having to travel far for school has created that independence that we all need, although I do know that while having to be on our own could help us grow and mature in the right way needed, just like everything else, it also has its disadvantages as one could end up misusing all of that freedom and turn out bad, but that isn't where we would be focusing on today's blog.

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Recently, I've come to notice that I no longer care when someone is lying to me. Like, when they're lying to my face meanwhile I already know the truth. Back in the day, I used to be that kid who hated it when people lied to me, especially when I already knew the truth.

So whenever I was having a conversation with someone and they start lying, I immediately call them out and tell them that I know they're lying, while also telling them the whole truth just so that they know that I knew what I was talking about... I used to get some sort of satisfaction off of watching them cower in shame as they realize that they've been caught in their lie.

But recently I no longer feel the need to want to do that anymore. You could be lying to my face and I wouldn't even react to it or try to call you out. I mostly would pretend like I believe you in order to end the whole conversation there but deep down in my heart, I'm having a whole different opinion about you, because now I know you're a liar and cannot be trusted, depending on how serious the situation you're lying about is.

Doing things that way has somewhat helped me avoid unnecessary drama that comes with calling them out and telling them that they're lying, it also helps me to form an opinion of that person in my head, letting me know what kind of person they are and how I should or should not associate myself with that said person.