[ESP-ENG] Iniciativa: Conectando conmigo y las expectativas sobre el amor ❤️

Hello friends of the Womentribe community, I hope you are feeling well today. Today I wanted to join the Tuesday initiative written by my friend @eldiariodelys in which this time is focused on talking about expectations in love. Every human being has the right to live and love whoever they want as long as this relationship is respectful, healthy and where communication is always a fundamental part of it. I feel that there are many people who want to feel loved in order to believe that they are important, when the mere fact of existing and being yourself every day is the best example of self-love.

We see all the time that there are people from a very young age looking to fill gaps in relationships with an age for which they are not really ready because it is not only the simple fact of loving a person but all the responsibility that lies in the fact of formalizing a relationship with someone. It is obvious that from a very young age we want to live that romance that we see so much in books, movies and novels or even in famous people through social networks but what we see is only a small part of what it means to love someone and many times there can be quite a lot of fiction within it.

I remember that since I was a teenager I was afraid of romantic relationships, I felt that it was a way of letting myself look vulnerable in front of another person who could use that against me. I was never one of those people who looked for love desperately but I feel that I lived in a very nice way going through that situation and that the person with whom I had a relationship full of friendship and love was very kind to me and also made me feel excited about love and it was something unexpected that this person told me he felt something for me because many times I do not see myself as someone with whom another person would like to be, although it sounds bad but that has to do a lot with self-esteem that I have been working on over the years and it is also very important to have when you start to meet someone in order to look for a relationship.

As we get older we see love from different perspectives, when we are young we want everything to be risky and always generate an emotion that comes from our own age, we want to experiment and meet people who fit our standard of personal tastes. But with time and experience we are seeing that love is a word somewhat misused especially in these times where you can say that you love a person knowing her in a very short time which I do not criticize but it seems to me that it is only falling in love with the superficial and that we are at the stage where we only see the beautiful as the physical or what that person can do for us.

In my standards I have always found attractive a person who can talk about what he feels without feeling ashamed, who can be authentic and who likes music a lot, for me a person who can respect and value me beyond my personal achievements is someone who is worth to have a relationship, of course the physical at the beginning can be very important and is one of the things we look at first but then when we get to know that person and see both his attributes and also his defects, that's when we realize if we really feel that is the person we would like to spend our life with.

Nowadays finding someone to start a relationship is something that can be complicated because we have many fears and we look for something that is like what we see in other relationships or even as my friend @eldiariodelys says in relationships of famous people, who only tend to show the beautiful side and not everything you have to live as a couple, from disagreements and having patience to understand the feelings of the other person who already has his or her own life story, his or her own personality and his or her own fears. It is nice to see that there are couples who really love each other and complement each other without falling into toxicity and where both are mature and willing to fight for the relationship.

For me the meaning of love is very broad, it has to do with the respect you feel for yourself and for others, with your way of seeking to improve every day to be someone who leaves a mark on others, someone who despite not understanding your states of anxiety or fear can be there supporting you as long as this does not hurt him or her or fall into dependence. Love is dedication from both parties, it is looking beyond what is seen only at first sight, it is looking to grow together and do the things you both love, it is being happy to see that your special person is happy and it is also always pushing each other to grow and make your dreams come true. It is supporting each other and no matter how many storms come, always being there for each other, that to me is love ❤️.