LOH Contest #123 : Alone But Not Lonely

1️⃣ Why are there so many people who are lonely? Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections?

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Another interesting issue this week is about loneliness. Even when they are in the arms of someone who loves them, many people feel lonely. In that regard, lonely is an odd phenomenon. In fact, it's very common for the search for a "real connection" to trigger loneliness, because as we find mismatch after mismatch and feel increasingly isolated, it's only natural to feel lonely because we're out there trying so hard to find and be found.

Making real connections is far more difficult than most people are willing to commit to. As a result, it is much easier to remain lonely. Everyone wishes to make genuine connections. However, everyone wants the connection to function at their convenience. Because while connecting would be wonderful, I can't always be the one doing all of the giving.

We all want things to follow our own unspoken rules. When we begin to compromise and feel suffocated as a result, loneliness sets in. It is exacerbated by a lack of understanding.

We're lonely because we get in our own way by seeking opposing things. Other than that, nowadays people are increasingly isolating themselves, I believe, because there is so much access to social media that interactions take place online rather than in person.

Everyone wishes for someone to listen to them, but the main issue is TIME. Nobody has time these days! That is why we are seeing an increase in the number of cases of depression!

What I'm about to say may sound harsh, but believe me when I say that real connections necessitate one of the hardest things for anyone to do. That thing is called "CHANGE".

I know some people may be chasing the love of their lives until the end of the world, but their habits and attitudes have remained unchanged. If they have the same issues as they did with their ex-partner, the issue is with this person. For myself, I would rather be alone than chase after someone who I know will not change.

It's because being alone is better for my mental health and my self-esteem. There are some people who want people to love them, but they themselves are not giving back the same amount of love they receive.

That's why this week's topic really caught my attention because I'm one of those people who are more willing to be alone than to waste their time with people who don't deserve me, my needs, or my desires. I know I'm alone, but I am not lonely.

I hope that those of you who are still looking for someone to be your life partner will study and deepen his character. If from the beginning he or she has cheated on you and not been honest, run away as soon as possible because you are not the first person he has done that to; you are just the next victim. Choose to be alone and lonely for as long as you want until you are really sure that there is the connection you are looking for in your life.