Lo que cuesta decir "no" | How hard it is to say "no" [ESP/ING]
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It is only 2 letters or one syllable that sometimes we find so hard to pronounce and that's what I want to talk to you about today: how difficult it is to say "no". Although this topic is not something common to accept, I am sure that at some point you have gone through this situation.
First, is it a defect or a virtue?
Está pregunta ronda por mi cabeza desde hace un par de dÃas y es que a mà parecer su respuesta puede variar dependiendo de si eres tú quien le cuesta decir no o si eres tú quien solicita el favor, al ser último te va a parecer la mejor de las virtudes porque contarás con una persona que sin importar la situación (o lo que deba hacer) te ayudará pero en cambio si eres la otra persona pues... Estarás de acuerdo conmigo de que se trata de un defecto. Desde que soy un poco consciente de las cosas que suceden a mi alrededor a mi mamá siempre la tachan de ser una persona muy caritativa porque siempre está dispuesta a ayudar, pero la realidad detrás de esto es que a mà mamá le cuesta muchÃsimo decir que no y por lo tanto yo siempre lo và como un defecto que aunque no era del todo malo me producÃa algo de molestia a veces porque sentÃa como se aprovechaban de su "virtud".
This question has been going around in my head for a couple of days and it seems to me that the answer may vary depending on whether you are the one who has a hard time saying no or if you are the one who asks for the favor, the latter will seem the best of virtues because you will have a person that no matter the situation (or what to do) will help you, but if you are the other person.... You will agree with me that this is a defect. Since I am a little aware of the things that happen around me my mom is always labeled as a very charitable person because she is always willing to help, but the reality behind this is that my mom has a hard time saying no and therefore I always saw it as a flaw that although it was not all bad it made me a little upset sometimes because I felt like they took advantage of her "virtue".
Siempre le critique como en ocasiones dejaba que abusaran de su confianza al punto de limitar su tiempo calidad conmigo y mi papá, cosas que al principio uno deja pasar pero luego comienzan a hacer peso, lamentablemente creo que está "virtud" (que para mà más bien es un defecto) se hereda porque en muchas ocasiones no he sabido decir que no y luego me arrepentÃa, terminaba echándome la culpa por no poder hacer otras cosas importantes y eso hacia que me sintiera mal porque sentÃa que le estaba regalando mi tiempo a otra persona en algo 0 productivo. A medida que pasó el tiempo fui cambiando poco a poco y puedo decir que ahora las cosas son muy diferentes porque comencé a hacer prioridad lo realmente importante y luego, lo demás. Ayudar a los demás es algo importante, nos hace más humanos y más felices (al menos en mi caso) pero creo que sà no nos ayudamos a nosotros mismos, no podemos ayudar a nadie.
I always criticized him as sometimes he let them abuse his trust to the point of limiting his quality time with me and my dad, things that at first you let pass but then begin to make weight, unfortunately I think this "virtue" (which for me is rather a defect) is inherited because many times I did not know how to say no and then I regretted it, I ended up blaming myself for not being able to do other important things and that made me feel bad because I felt I was giving away my time to someone else in something 0 productive. As time went by I changed little by little and I can say that now things are very different because I started to prioritize what is really important and then, the rest. Helping others is something important, it makes us more human and happier (at least in my case) but I believe that if we don't help ourselves, we can't help anyone else.
Entiendo que decir "no" es una tarea muy complicada, somos seres "sociales" que nos gusta agradar a las personas pero debemos entender que todos tenemos diferencias y es imposible caerle bien a todos, además solemos creer que decir un "si" cuando realmente sentimos un "no", no significa nada y no perderás nada con eso pero estamos equivocados, perdemos más de lo creemos! Perdemos tiempo valioso, perdemos la oportunidad de hacer algo que realmente queremos hacer. El tiempo es "Oro" y cada vez que dices "sÃ" a cosas que no tienen importancia en tu vida estás diciéndole "no" a otras que sà la tienen, tan sencillo como eso.
I understand that saying "no" is a very complicated task, we are "social" beings who like to please people but we must understand that we all have differences and it is impossible for everyone to like us, we also tend to believe that saying "yes" when we really feel "no", means nothing and you will not lose anything with that but we are wrong, we lose more than we think! We lose valuable time, we lose the opportunity to do something we really want to do. Time is "Gold" and every time you say "yes" to things that have no importance in your life you are saying "no" to other things that do, as simple as that.
Hay que saber decir "no" a muchas cosas en la vida que nos consumen tiempo, como: no estar presente en la comida familiar contestando al Whatsapp, trabajar gratis para alguien, ir a compromisos sociales que no aportan nada. Si para no perder la amistad con alguien tienes que acceder a concesiones que te hacen sentir mal y desestabilizan tu vida, es que hay algo que no está bien.
You have to know how to say "no" to many things in life that consume our time, such as: not being present at the family meal answering Whatsapp, working for someone for free, going to social engagements that do not contribute anything. If in order not to lose friendship with someone you have to agree to concessions that make you feel bad and destabilize your life, there is something wrong.
Cuando quieres mejorar tu vida siempre hay alguien a tu lado que te quiere contagiar su negatividad, di "no" también a estas cosas. No dejes que entre en tu vida la negatividad, el desánimo, la crÃtica, y lucha por tus sueños.
When you want to improve your life there is always someone next to you who wants to infect you with negativity, say "no" to these things too. Don't let negativity, discouragement, criticism, and fight for your dreams.
"Learning to say "no" without feeling guilty is a luxury; wanting to please everyone is a huge drain."
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