More than a soul mate, I feel that we all get our ideal partner, which is that person who, since they came into your life, helps you progress, be better, grow, and complements you in your day to day life, since a soul mate, I feel that in romantic relationships it doesn't really work, because when something is the same, it doesn't tend to work for the most part, that's why I consider that there are people who are your complement.
In my case, my boyfriend and I complement each other in many things, we become a balance in many situations, when one of us gets a cloudy mind with a problem, the other has a different perspective, or if we talk about geniuses, I would say that he is much calmer and more patient than me, but I am more optimistic in many situations. But speaking a little about destiny and your ideal partner (assuming that is what “soul mate” means in this case) I would say that yes, the love of your life comes at the exact moment, neither before nor after, you just have to know what you really want and who you are, because if you don’t know what you want and what you are looking for in another person, maybe you are in the wrong place and you haven’t even realized it.