"They won't let me be" is a phrase that is generally used to refer to the fact that some people are not as they wish, that is, they did not develop their full potential nor act or behave in society as they are, because perhaps "someone", parents or any family authority figure prevented them from doing so in their childhood and adolescence. In Venezuela, parents are told when they have their children oppressed, without freedom of action or independence.

They suffocate them in a way that prevents them from developing psychologically in an adequate manner and from being responsible, independent adults who do not allow themselves to be manipulated. There are many factors that influence people not to be what they really want to be. However, upbringing and education at home is very important, and it is here where the role of parents is fundamental.

To avoid fears of uncertainty, complexes, and traumas that make it impossible for them to incorporate into society, to have better family, couple and work relationships. Above all, to be better parents. I do not mean that children should do whatever they want, but the idea is to give them a little freedom of action. Of course, always setting limits with respect and without mistreatment. So that when they reach adulthood, and open their eyes, they can lift their wings to fly.

If this is not the case, it is because their wings have been clipped. So they are afraid to become independent and fail to act because they are afraid to face the world. They do not manage to keep an established job, and they go from here to there stumbling from relationship to relationship. And most importantly, they are not taught to work or to value work. They are taught that they deserve everything without lifting a finger. As a consequence, they get sick with nerves and fall into depression.

I think it is a serious mistake, children should be taught from an early age all the necessary tools. Above all, to be independent and responsible, and to learn to work to generate income. The role of parents should be to give them the necessary push to help them fulfill their dreams and goals. If parents do not teach them to take responsibility, then what can they expect from them?

On the NAPOLEON HILL FOUNDATION website, a quote from its founder, the American writer Napoleon Hill, was published:

"Making life easy for children usually makes life difficult for them in adulthood..." For more information visit aquí

Voila! It is a great truth that some parents live by making decisions for their children, such as what to study, what sports to play, what friends they should have, and so on. They also do their homework for them in school, their high school work, and their thesis in college. They do not put them to assume obligations at home. All this leads to them being adults with no capacity for action.

All of the above is a consequence of the fact that their parents and the adults around them did everything for them and gave it to them without explaining to them where it came from. There are also children without values who think they own the world and that is why we are on the verge of a collapse of society. What can we expect? If they do not even love their parents and are incapable of making a phone call to ask them: How are they?

On the other hand, another case arises, of children who become ill with stress due to the demands of their parents; always pushing them to be the best and to succeed; good grades, the best athlete, as well as many other things. On this point, the page www.prohappiness.co published an article in August 2018, entitled: "Why my child gives up without trying?", where it is expressed:

"when we place too high expectations on our children, we are leaving them with no choice: choose between being dumb or lazy...." For more information visit aquí

From my point of view, I think extremes are bad in all aspects. In terms of responsibilities, we must prevent them from being lazy but not be so demanding and give them activities to adults. In the same sense, we must teach them the value of money and work so that they know what a gift costs, but without putting them to work. They should also be given independence so that they can make decisions.

In short, children should be allowed to be what they want if we want them to be healthy men and women, emotionally balanced to achieve their dreams and goals. In addition, give them the necessary tools they need, such as love, respect, values and education.

"We must teach our children to dream with their eyes open."

(Harry Edwards)

The easy life is not the solution, but that children learn to jump over obstacles without fear and to fight for what they want. Of course, with ethical and moral values, since they are the women and men, the future, and they will lead the reins of society.

• Setting an example is paramount, since they are imitators of everything they see around them.

• Propose outdoor activities, so that they learn to love and protect the environment.

• Plan household activities for children and adolescents to participate in, such as: picking up their toys and clothes, watering plants, washing toilets and caring for pets.

• Instill a love of reading. Reading is a tool that will help them in the future.

• Let them decide what sport they want to play.

• Let them go out with their friends, under your supervision.

• Encourage saving, recycling in the family, empathy and ethical and moral values.

• Propose but do not force them, let them make the decisions.

"Loving our children for more than their abilities shows them that to us they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments."

(Eileen Kennedy-Moore)

Parents, I invite you to encourage and give tools to your children to be able to adapt to the world around them. That they are able to dare to take control of their lives, to make decisions, take responsibility and fight for their dreams. Do not make things easy for them, it is preferable that they learn to face adversities and do not cut their wings, on the contrary, give them a little push to unfold them. In short, "let them be".

Thanks for visiting the column Help, grandma!, see you next week. I love you.

Namasté

"The function of a son is to live his own life, not to live the life his anxious father thinks he should live."

(A.S. Neill)

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Las 140 mejores frases sobre los hijos.

The 140 best quotes about children

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¿Por qué mi hijo se rinde sin intentarlo?

Why does my child give up without trying?.

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