Having the right friends will shape us for the better

Hi, fellow #LadiesOfHive community. Welcome to my blog. Today, I want to talk about a friendship relationship. Many of us find it difficult to build good relationships with the people around us. People who do not have a good relationship with the people around them will feel a distance between one person and another. Many factors influence this. However, an interesting factor to discuss is someone's difficulty to build friendships because of differences in ethnicity, religion, and race.

I often encounter people who are verbally abused for being a minority in their group. This will harm someone who is of different ethnicity, religion, and race in the majority group. Have you ever experienced something similar? I ever. This is my experience when I just entered high school. The things that I often experience as I mentioned make me pessimistic and suspicious of the people around me, so I have to keep my distance from other people. But, on the other hand, I also want to have a close relationship with someone. I don't want to feel isolated and lonely. I felt this kind of experience for three years while in high school.

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After I finished high school period, I also chose to continue studying in the city of Medan. At university, I was treated differently than when I was in high school. My friends at the University received me very well. Even one of my friends also helped me find a rental house for my residence. Among my close friends from university, I am the only one who has a different ethnicity and religion. But they didn't mind that. They are always there when I need help. I feel happy with their presence.

Even so, every night I always remember how my friends treated me in high school. Every time I remember that I feel sad and angry with them. I felt unable to forgive their treatment of me because of my ethnic and religious differences. I even cried in my room while remembering it. I want to forget that dark past, but I can't. Until I told this to a friend from the philosophy department. She gave advice that put me in a good mood again. She even taught me techniques to forgive myself and others. The longer I befriend and talk with her, the easier it is for me to come to terms with wounds and people in the past. So that in the life that I live, I conclude that everyone present in my life has their role. Thank you for visiting and reading my post. Greetings.