Secrets of my Language of Love - LOH Contest #172
How do you express your love for someone special?
Forget about Valentine's Day has always been my motto, as we need not set aside only one day of the year to show our sweethearts just how much we love them!
Every day should be a celebration of love.
I was blessed to have my sweetheart beside me for nearly fifty years. Yes, a lifetime, and we understood each other's languages of love right from the outset. We both were on the same page when it came to showing how much we love each other day-to-day.
Expensive gifts and grand gestures played no part in it.
Small gestures like tip-toeing out of the bedroom when he was still in dreamland, to make that special cup of coffee. Seeing him smile when he wakes up and smells the coffee, was a simple way of showing my love for my man. Note, I'm not a morning person, so it was a big deal for me to get up before him, but it was done with love.
Those who knew him, would not be surprised to hear that I was also spoilt with coffee and a rusk in bed, in fact, more often than he was!
I miss that morning ritual, but still sit in bed with my cup of coffee, remembering the special times.
Surprisingly for some, much of my language of love revolves around food!
Making an extra loaf of bread to give to a friend while it still is hot, sharing freshly baked cookies or muffins, and doubling up on a recipe to give a cake or a tart to a special friend, is just one of those ways. It gives me a warm fuzzy feeling seeing the surprise and delight on their faces.
Visiting a sick friend with a homecooked meal, taking a couple of magazines, flowers, or a plant, is another of my languages of love.
This mini succulent rock garden was made by the mother of one of our young guests as a way of thanking me for taking care of her son while staying in our Airbnb for a lengthy period while undergoing training.
That was a random act of kindness that warmed my heart.
I still want to replicate something similar for a very special friend who loves succulents.
For many moons one of my favourite ways of expressing my love has been by giving my loved ones a memorable experience.
It may be a restaurant voucher, tickets to a show, or a holiday (we have paid-up timeshare points so it's not a big deal).
At other times we would invite our special people with us on a jaunt!
My sweet man often used to discreetly get up and settle the bill. I've taken over that role, so occasionally do the same now that he no longer is here.
I've been blessed time and time again with a flood of bookings in our Airbnb, so am able to share the fruits of that blessing with loved ones.
My love language often entails lending an ear, being a shoulder to lean on, encouraging and giving advice, but respecting their decision even if I don't always agree.
Laughter is the best medicine, and that's another gift I love passing onto my loved ones.
Above all, giving of oneself, is the greatest gift of them all!
This has been my response to @meraki7578's questions for this week's Ladies of Hive Community Contest #172, and it went like this:
February 14, Valentine's Day. It can be a day of grand declarations,
blossoming new love, or simply another day on the calendar.
1️⃣ Do you have heartwarming memories, hilarious mishaps, or do you prefer to let it pass without fanfare? Share your thoughts — what makes this day special for you, or why would you rather fast-forward through it?
~ 𝐀𝐍𝐃 / 𝐎𝐑 ~
2️⃣ Forget Valentine's Day — how do you truly show someone you care? Is it a grand gesture, a thoughtful gift, heartfelt words, or something different entirely?
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Hi dear @lizelle
Wow! 50 years of togetherness is a blessing.
You are absolutely right on small caring gestures, it means the world to loved one.
Thanks for sharing your love language.
Happy weekend:)
Yes I was immensely blessed, did not want it to ever end!
Thank you for reading, it seems we're also on the same page about the small gestures that mean a lot!
Enjoy your weekend as well @sahiba-rana 🤗
I think these are very nice demonstrations of love. And also that you keep those special and tender moments of your husband that you now replicate to honor him and because they are also part of your way of thinking and being.
What a nice post. Thank you.
Thank you @nanixxx, I'm very happy to hear that you enjoyed reading this. I was truly blessed to have had so many years with the most wonderful humane soulmate at my side xxx
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Thank you for the topic and the token @ladytoken xxx
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Thank you very much for the curation @ladiesofhive and for the weekly topics xxx
While reading on and on, I was touched. You must miss him so dearly. Truly showing love shouldn't just be fixed for a day, and the things you both do for each other on a daily basis are very remarkable.
Words given out to help marriage flourish, and I am glad I was able to read you because you've given me a sweet gift in return. Thanks for sharing ☺️.
Your words touched my heart @balikis95, I think it's important to be mindful of our partner's feelings and needs, and showing our love in small ways x
I was touched by yours, too. Yes, it is very important. Thank you so much.
Always the small things that count, love placed into what we do not what we buy. Have a wonderful weekend, rain is a blessing arriving that too is enough to bring joy!
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Thank you Joan, this cooler weather is such a relief, we've only had short showers, need more rain though. I just worry that when it does come down, it could be damaging.
Enjoy the weekend, a friend's bringing lunch, it's 7 months today since Arthur left us ;(
Enjoy your lunch, time flies one does not realize just how quickly. Light drizzle on the coast on and off all night, now throughout the day as well.
And that's why I love you :)
Came to check in on you, dear Lizelle
Sending hugs and cookies from the coast of CT. ❤️
Awe thank you Nicky, loads of love to you as well.
Cookies and a hug will be so good. Today is exactly 7 months since Arthur left this world xxx
Gosh... it does go fast.Time. Wow! 👀
And still it feels like only yesterday.
Wish I were closer to bring real cookies and a hug in person. But I'm here if ever <3
Lucky you to have had such a sweet soul beside you for fifty years. It must be hard for you now, but both of you have many happy memories that would keep you happy and smiling for sure.
Thank you for sharing, and have a great weekend.
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Thank you @meraki7578, it was a topic I really enjoyed writing about as it brought back happy memories.
I was truly blessed to have had my soulmate for so many years, but still feel cheated that he left so suddenly.
Have a wonderful weekend @meraki7578 x
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It is the little things on every day of the year.
I remember seeing a yellow sticky note that I had put on a fridge in Aberdeen when we lived there many many years ago. It was a smiley face and I love You Poppet written on it. Mrs T kept it, so the little things done often sure beat the Valentine's Day commercialised nonsense!
However, Happy Belated Valentine's Day Lizzie 💙
Thank you Ed💕
That is so sweet, and exactly the kind of little things that I was trying to speak of. Your little sticky note means way more than any of those big Valentine's cards because it came from the heart. That reminds me that I still have one or two that hubby gave me when we were 'courting', does that word still exist today? 😅
Have a wonderful weekend Mr & Mrs T💕