THE HEALING POWER OF SOLITUDE
Recently, I read @jongcl's blog post where she talked about the need to spend time with yourself and that being alone does not mean you are lonely and I truly resonate with her thoughts as I read through her blog post which then inspired me to share my thoughts about self-love and the need to spend time alone.
Earlier I shared a quote which I read as soon as I woke up this morning. I always had a notion that my purpose in life is to find a partner who I resonate with and to get to know people as I explore life. I honestly have been doing that for the past 22 years, meeting new people and get to understand who they are through the conversations and moments that we share. However, I came into a realization that I have been spending all my life trying to find meaning in the hands of another person but I haven't made a deep connection with myself because I found it so hard to be alone.
I am an extrovert and I still consider myself to be one but despite being an extrovert I realized the value of spending time alone or going on a date with yourself because if you are not happy on your own then you will never be happy when you are with someone self. I believe that an empowered woman can stand on her own and has a sense of independence because that is who she is and that is who I want to be. Although I still struggle with independence, I believe that I am growing to be a woman who is capable of self-sufficiency.
Spending time alone to reconnect with oneself on a deeper level is a form of self-love and it honestly healed me. I have been through difficult times which broke my heart not just romantically but in other aspects of life as well. And because I learned how to love and respect myself I realized that I am now healing. I learned that self-love also entails self-forgiveness and that is done by letting go by not allowing yourself to be consumed by your past mistakes and instead you allow yourself to learn and grow through it.
There are still more steps to make and chances to take in this beautiful journey called life. I hope we continue to make time for ourselves by doing the things that we love. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be in the company of others because we can't go through this journey alone for we need people to walk with us. However, there are moments in life where we need to spend time with ourselves and that is how we get to know ourselves and how we love ourselves even more. Self-love isn't narcissistic for self-love also gives us the power to be empathetic since through it we get to know how to love others even more.
How do you spend time alone? Do you also enjoy doing things on your own? Would love to know your thoughts!
Sending love and light.
lifewithera is a 22-year old, college senior, an aspiring yogi, a furmom, and a wanderer, who writes stories about her personal life, mental health, fitness, travel, and just anything and everything her heart wants to speak. If you want to get to know her more, then you can connect with her through various social media platforms.
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Thank you hivebuzz!!!!🤗🤗
Lovely as always!! Looking at the photos and coffee makes me wanna go back to the coffee bay. 🙊🙊
To more laag, me time and happy memories. 💖💗
Thank you Sasha!!!🤗 Let's visit there soon. Yess manifesting more me time this year🤗🤗
Yes, please na jud ni awee haha
Alone but not lonely hehe 😁
Yes kuya!! Definitely enjoying my own company hehehe
Love this post Era. So meaningful. This is something I really want everyone to master. Being okay whilst alone or with a crowd. Our society has been so judgmental for people who prefer to fly solo without knowing the amount of peace it gives us. So we can learn so much about ourselves when we appreciate the silence being alone!
Thanks kuya klause!! There's honestly nothing wrong with wanting to spend time alone, it's just society that tells us otherwise. There's so much to learn and realize when we connect with ourselves in solitude🤗🤗
Solo date at Bliss soon. Ahahaha
Yes while people watching mga people sa Dumlog wahhaha🤣
People of Pooc, Mohon and Lit-mon
I looove spending time alone, too! It gives me a different sense of peace and a time to reconnect with myself. I also believe that dating ourselves from time to time would make us a better company to others as well. Yay to time for oneself. ❤
Thanks so much for dropping by!! Indeed being alone gives me a sense of peace and yes we do need to charge our batteries from time to time and what better way to recharge than spending time with ourselves🥺🤗
Yes Girl! You may need to be alone at times to genuinely know and appreciate yourself. I remember what my prof used to say "Don't use your phone while you poop, use it as a moment to reminisce and think about your worth" hahahahaha which actually makes sense. btw girl cutie lage na si friend hahahahahah
Hahahaha your prof is right!! When Im in the CR I never use my phone, that's like my me time because I get to think and talk to myself 🤣 hala hala kinsa na friend? Hahahaha @asasiklause
"Self-love isn't narcissistic"
-love this line Era. I have told you we are so similar in some ways, and back when I was in my early 20s, I did feel and think the same, and self-love just came to my realization later on. I love reading your blog as always. 😍
Thank you Mary!! I truly value self-love because I know this would benefit me a lot in the long run. Awwww this means a lot to me🤗🤗
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Awwww thank you so much. This means a lot to me 🤗🥺
Thank you ladies of hive!!! 💖💖💖💖
Aweee that's so sweet, thank you for the mention Era, appreciate it a lot😘😘I'm glad that post inspired you to write this.
Solitude can provide us massive healing "power" if only we learn to embrace it and allow it to be a constant part of our daily life✨ Majority of our days we live inside our heads so it's extremely important that we are not afraid to be alone with our thoughts.
You and your friends look too cute in the photos, btw! 😍❤️ A balance of being with people and being alone is KEY TO A HEALTHY adulting life, definitely! 🧡
Loveeeee your post🙌😍❤️🧡💚
I could totally agree to this Jong!! We must never be afraid to be alone with our thoughts because it gives us the opportunity to process them and sort out what matters and what doesn't🤗🤗🤗 It's definitely all about balance. Thank you so much Jong!! 💖💖💖💖✨ you inspire me a lot
This is absolutely right. I couldn’t agree more @lifewithera. I love dating myself most of the time and it gives me an incredible moment being relax and peace when i face trouble in life. I love this very much ❤️❤️❤️
We should definitely date ourselves every once in a while because solitude definitely brings so much peace 🤗🤗 Thank you so much @prettyunicorn this means a lot 🥺