SO MUCH EXPECTATIONS THE SOCIETY PLACE ON US.

Hello ladies on hive, it's feels good to be making my first post here in this community and I'd love to talk about expectations placed on working mothers and even women in general.

There was this recent outburst in my country Nigeria about a woman that left her kid at the creche and went to work but by the time she returned to pick up her kid, she met a dead baby and things I read online this period baffles me,as I read a lot of comments saying negative things about the mother of the dead child, why she took her child to creche at four mouth old. She's a working mother, what's she supposed to do? Pause her life for her child? What are they going to eat?

Women give birth and we expect so much sacrifice from them, they should pause their life completely, like we don't even see the pain and hurt and all they go through and yet we want to take away their career as well. It's actually not fair on any mom to choose between her work and her child, the society already made it tough for us, all we can do is to be kind to each other and not bring each other down with our words.

It's sad that you hear this hurtful comments from fellow women as well, people that are supposed to be on your side, people you think would understand because you almost wearing the same shoe. So I will share a bit of my own experience. I'm a mom that works from home but that doesn't mean I don't need some few hours of quietness in the house for myself and for productivity purpose. So my daughter started school a year and six months and I got all this side looks like isn't she too small and how I am mentally stressing her, this is a kid that is very active and ready to learn, she was learning so fast and I thought it was time for her to start school and she was coping very well but everywhere I turn I get this judgemental look like isn't this child supposed to be sleeping at home? And it's really funny how this people don't care about my mental health and how i need to create time for myself to grow and be a better mom. They act like because you sent your child to school early you don't love them or whatever. I don't know how it's in your country but this what we face in Nigeria and I'm tired of the stereotype and people telling how to raise my kid.

I know the many sacrifices I have made for my kid and dreams I had to pause just to be available and present, it's my choice to be a mother and I know it's comes with sacrifices but I refuse to let the society project what they see as normal for me. I'm not a perfect mother and I will neither be quilt shame. I will do what's best for me and my child and I will advise every mom and future mom to do so as well. Don't loose yourself because of your children, they will all grow up and leave and you will probably be left with regrets for not pursuing your dreams.

I hope we all get to the point where we put ourselves first before the pressure from the society gets the best of us. Do you always, love your kid and family the best way you can and never forget to go after your dreams.