Forced fidelity is not honest ... || Week: 201
Forcing someone to be faithful is totally and clearly an act of zero self-esteem. It's like begging for love, and unfortunately many people fall into this.
Being faithful or unfaithful is always a personal decision. Nothing and no one forces you to stay firm in the commitment with yourself, with your partner, with your friends, with all your actions in the daily doing Galen, that's how I see it and I practice it.
The problem with fidelity is that when it is forced, then it is not honest. It is essential to understand it so as not to fall into stories on the way.
No matter how much one wants, fidelity is not demanded, it is granted.
Fidelity is a decision, life has taught me that there are people who like to be unfaithful, they enjoy it, and it gives them pleasure, and that should be respected because whatever you do that person is not going to change if it is not their decision to do it, we are the ones who like to be faithful and stick to our principles and values, in that case the ideal of being faithful is something very personal at an intimate level, it is a feeling of self-love.
The way we relate to each other has a lot to do with our values and our beliefs about love, work, family, partner... Be faithful by values, by principles, by self-love, by respect... anyway!
Let everyone assume their decisions with everything and consequences!
For example, Galen, in the case of couples, what good is it for you to demand fidelity from your partner if, deep down, he or she is not willing to fulfill it, or even worse, he or she says yes, that aha, that he or she will be faithful to you, but the real truth is that he or she leads a double life, despite the promise of fidelity that he or she made to you?
It would be best...
Talking about being faithful before getting into deep waters in a relationship. It is assumed that in a relationship there is a commitment of respect and fidelity (honesty)... Agreements are made and they must be fulfilled! If you are not willing to comply, then it is not there. And so we don't get frustrated along the way.
There are people who, even if you change their chip, they are no longer... they just have another way of relating. What is the most sensible thing to do? Be sincere, be honest, with whom you relate, and establish agreements in that regard
In the photo, my beloved parents, at 65 years of marriage, the agreement to be true to themselves personally and individually is still in force. Being faithful is in our values, it's like that.
Janitze.
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I agree with you completely, being true to oneself and having self-honesty is the best way to go; others may not understand, or respect it, for various reasons but one has to be accountable to oneself.
It's nice to see your parents still passionate about each other after 65 years of marriage.
That's the way Galen is, and we're not all "set up" the same way. As they say out there when talking about this issue about being faithful and being honest "the problem is not the cell phone owner but the one who feels the need to review it".
I appreciate your nice comment, about my parents, she with 86 years and he with 88. They are one of my great examples of fidelity, honesty in all aspects and areas in my life. Thanks for your comment.🌹
This is wow! At 65 years between thick and thin👏👏
Being truthful is a choice not a force
Thank you very much and that's right, even love has limits and it's a very personal decision, "in the good and the less good" from respect, honesty.
Yes, you are right 👍👍
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What a beautiful photo!
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Thank You so much 💜