Protecting loved ones is a responsibility

We are human and emotion is one of the significant characteristics of humans. Because of our emotions, we can feel love, hate, angerness, and happiness which are different forms of emotions. Sometimes we can control and dominate emotions and sometimes we are carried out by emotions, especially in the case of our angerness and love.

Love is blind and sometimes to protect our beloved person we do our best. Even We don't hesitate to push ourselves beyond our limit and it's natural. The beloved person can be a father, mother, brother, sister and so many people. There is no doubt all of us love our family members and at any cost, we try to protect them.

In my case, I love all of my family members but somehow I feel I love more my little brother compared to other family members. It doesn't mean I don't love my parents but I am saying what I feel. Maybe it's because he was very much connected with me as he spent most of the time with me. Even he spent at least 2X times with me compared to my parents while growing up. So the bond between me and my little brother seems very strong and I feel he is the one whom I love most in the world till now.

As well as I can remember I never went against my parents or disagreed with their opinions for me because I knew their decision was good for me. Many times I stayed against my parents and their decision for my little brother. Several times my parents became angry with me for trying to protect him. They used to say to me I was spoiling him by protecting him. But from my perspective, I don't protect him all the time because sometimes I feel he deserves punishment for his actions and in that case, I remain silent. In fact, sometimes I give him punishment also for his mistakes.

I believe that every time punishment is not good. I can understand the psychology of other's petty well. So I try to protect my brother when I feel it may create a negative impact on his mind. I think for mistakes it's not necessary to give punishment or say harsh words to him all the time. Most of the time having a friendly discussion and making him realize mistakes can be much better than giving punishment and it has less chance of creating a negative impact on the mind. So even if my brother makes any mistake I protect him and I have a friendly discussion with him and make him realize what was his mistake and how he needs to act. 1 year ago I protected him which seems a significant one in my eyes.

I can remember that it was the day when the result of my brother's exam was published. Unfortunately, he failed in one subject. He came back from school and showed the result to my parents. Naturally, my parents became angry to see it and started to scold him. There were some guests in my house also and my parents scolded him in front of the guests which was kind of humiliating situation for my little brother. He started weeping. I just entered home from outside at that time and acknowledged about the result. I started to scold my parents to scold him and I took him outside of home instantly.

Going outside we sat in a quiet place. He was weeping at that time and I asked why he was weeping. What was the benefit? I said that parents scolded him because they love him and they want him to shine in life. They would forget about the results if they could get better results in the next exam. I just tried to make him understand to focus on his studies more and not to think too much about what happened. I returned home with him and I said my parents not say a single word to him about his result. I tried to guide him as much as I could and in the next exam he was brilliant and he came to the top. I just supported him and gave him the courage to do better and as a result, he performed better.

It's just an example of many things. I think we need to support a kid and try to understand them. Every time punishment is not the only solution because a friendly discussion is much better than giving punishment and it reduces the chances of creating a negative impact on the mind.