[ Week 131] Weekend quality: Friendship as a transforming means.

Having friends has always been important to me, but lately I've realized that quality is better than quantity. That's why I love the question of this weekend challenge proposed by @galenkp

You’re on the search for a new friend this weekend…What qualities do you look for in them and why?

Definitely, if I had the possibility to choose, I would like my future friend to have qualities that for me are fundamental, which are the following:

• That he values me for who I am and not for what he can get from me, that interest is not the center of our friendship, because otherwise it somehow becomes an exploitative relationship. Certainly, it is important to value our friends for who they are and not for what they have.

• I don't want a friend who lies to me just to make me feel good, I want someone who tells me things and that way I can improve any action that is not so right. We also get to know each other through our relationship with each other and that is how we somehow manage to improve.

• Someone simple and with whom it is pleasant to share, that with small actions we are happy and consolidate the friendship.

• Mutual support is essential, both in good times and bad, it is essential to have that helping hand that drives you to continue.

• That I accept myself as I am, without wanting to change me, it has happened to me, that sometimes they want to impose criteria that have nothing to do with me. In my case, I have always respected the positions of those around me, I think it is important that we respect the positions of others even when we think differently.

• That adds to me and does not subtract from me, that is someone positive that transmits me that energy to go forward and fight for my dreams, friendship is also about being a source of impulse and motivation. It is much easier, when as friends we motivate each other.

• That he/she is empathetic, that he/she feels the pain of others as his/her own and that he/she is willing not to judge. Empathy is something that cannot be missing, since both of us must have the ability to understand each other.

• You must be able to recognize your mistakes and not feel in a position of superiority, when we are wrong it is good to learn to apologize. In addition, there must be reciprocity between the two.

• To practice humility, tolerance and respect, these factors are key for me, as they denote that way of looking at life from the perspective that we are all equal.

•And that no matter what, it is the same without masks or double standards. Sincerity is that sign that we are always willing to show ourselves as we are.

All these qualities are important to me because they account for fundamental aspects of my life, I think I would like to have a new friend who, like me, puts these criteria into practice.

Fortunately, I currently have a few friendships that over the years have become part of my family and if I have learned anything it is that we should not take it for granted, friendship is cultivated day by day.

Thank you for reading and appreciating my writing

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