I was judged to be too proud and always dressing up

People forget stereotypes aren't bad because they are untrue. Stereotypes are bad because they are not always true. If we allow ourselves to another based on stereotypes, we have allowed a gross generalization to replace our thinking ~ George Takci

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Often people tend to judge us based on their own beliefs about us without taking time to get to know us. I feel like we all unconsciously do this at times without knowing we are judging people

When I got my job my recent job. I was ecstatic and so eager to learn. I was happy because getting a job these days is so hard but I was fortunate to get a job, so yes I was happy and grateful to God. I was based in another state previously and needed to relocate for the job, so I was staying with my cousin. I was new to my job, my boss was a very demanding man and on top of that, I was told that I was on probation for three months to check my performance, so I had to be very effective to keep my job.

Because I was new to the company, I was trying to get to know other people, I didn't want to rush into friendships with anyone. There was this lady in the office, I noticed that whenever I was in the office or I tried talking to her, she was always snubbing me and forcefully answering my questions. I was confused and I tried so much to think if I had any negative encounters with her but no matter how hard I think, I can't recall anything and I was sure we had no encounter.

Then one day, I caught her talking about me, I would say she was saying it to my face. She told me I was too proud and full of myself, that I was always dressing up as if I was the only one in the office who has better clothes. To say I was shocked is an understatement, I was shell-shocked. I couldn't believe what she was saying, I was just trying to do my job not to show off. As a salesperson, I felt I had an image to uphold and hence the dressing, and aside from that I always feel like no matter what we should always dress up I mean who dresses shabby to work.

how the judgement affected me

When she spread the gossip about me, other staff were giving me attitude. I was frustrated, I was miles away from home, working so hard at my job and trying to develop myself personally. I was so sad and lonely, it was so obvious that she hated me and was always antagonizing me. It got to a point that I called home crying that I was tired of my job because of all the hate and that I was coming back home. When I got home and told my cousin, she told me the lady was probably jealous of me and the only way she could hurt me was through her words, she said I needed to ignore her and pretend as though she didn't exist. So from that day, I told myself I would never let her word or anybody's opinion of me affect me negatively, and that decision as being the best so far because now I know that people tend to judge you mostly because they are jealous of you.