Sleeping between dreams and nightmares [ESP – ENG]
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Greetings to all the members of the community, how are you? I decided to participate in the community to talk about this topic because I have always had some problem related to sleep, although this has varied over time. In the same way the consequences have remained constant, presenting difficulties to sleep, feeling when waking up of not having rested at all, dreams plagued with nightmares that generate restlessness during the day and do not allow to enjoy the rest... this has led me to appreciate the importance of sleep in everyday life, stressing that alone is not enough. Many people think that it is a simple task when it is not, having a quality sleep sometimes not only involves lying down, close your eyes and surrender to the arms of Morpheus.
During childhood it is quite common for a child to wet the bed, at least, that is what I understand, but there is a certain age range, it is not expected that a child older than six years old will continue to wet the bed. For some reason this happened to me countless times when I was little, probably many people would be embarrassed to admit something like this, to me it seems like something that should be talked about calmly as it is part of the developmental process and it is no one's fault. I guess a lot of this thinking comes from how my parents handled the situation, they supported me through that stage with love, with their normal moments of frustration but in the end with a willingness to help me feel better, my mom making sure every night that I had gone to the bathroom before bed to minimize the chances.
I had trouble falling asleep at night for fear that I would wet my bed again, sometimes I would have nightmares where it happened, I would wake up scared checking if the bed was wet but it was completely dry, then when I went back to sleep, when I woke up in the morning I would discover that I had ended up wetting my bed. Staying with friends was off the list of options for a long time for this reason, it would have been particularly traumatic for me to have something like this happen to me in the company of a friend. Fortunately for me, one of my aunts has always been relaxed with me and never minded that I might pee in her bed, she slept at her house often when we were on vacation, this made me become more confident about sleeping away from home even though I had a few accidents.
When I finally overcame this problem, adolescence came, a stage where sleeping at night became an Odyssey because I wanted to stay awake and so I found myself until the wee hours of the morning still watching TV, playing PlayStation, glued to the computer reading manga... needless to say that during the day I looked like a zombie. The fights with my parents for this routine harmful to my health became common, they even punished me a couple of times, at that time I thought they were being exaggerated, but I don't blame them, sleeping during the day does not give us the same quality of rest as sleeping at night, that's why having the sleep clock adjusted is important for health. I'm not going to lie either, sometimes I have certain moments where I still fall asleep in the wee hours of the morning but they are very few.
Sleeping even more than Achilles.
If there was a award for the worst sleep period in my life, it would be the one where I was struggling with depression and anxiety that is still with me although to a lesser extent. There were days where all I wanted to do was sleep but when I woke up it felt like a truck had driven over me, I was so tired, that's why I say that sleeping is not enough. I also went through moments where my mind was thinking so much that it was impossible to sleep, it was as if there was a wheel spinning endlessly inside my head without being able to stop it, an eternal movie projecting distorted fragments of many things that do not make any sense to each other. During those days I often had nightmares, I have not been able to forget one in particular where I was drowning.
The situation improved when I started attending therapy and weight lifting came into my life, I was able to follow a routine where I slept early to get up in the morning to exercise, I felt more energetic. Now I still wake up in the morning but I don't sleep as early as I would like, but I am trying not to let my obligations get in the way of achieving a balance regarding my health, because even though at times I feel that time is not enough to do everything I need to do during the day, there is always a way to organize myself better, being aware that the small details matter. Usually when I am at home I limit myself to two cups of black coffee a day so that my sleep is not affected, before I used to drink even more than four but I realized that it was not doing me any good.
This is my last cup of the day.
Sleep is a need that if not treated with enough attention can generate many problems, human beings need quality rest to continue living fully and not find ourselves devoid of energy to perform activities of our day to day. Thanks to the problems I have encountered along the way, I am able to appreciate their importance, without being afraid to make changes in my daily routine in order to improve, always looking for tools to help me sleep better. One of them was the Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, I discovered that watching videos about this, I was able to fall asleep faster and feeling more rested when I woke up, but I know it is not for everyone, at first it can be a little strange but having such a positive impact on me I decided to continue consuming this content until now.
It was a pleasure to share my experience with you, I hope you are well and we can meet a next time.
The photos are mine, taken from my Redmi Note 5. The cover was edited using Canva.
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Saludos a todos los miembros de la comunidad, ¿cómo están? Me animé a participar en la comunidad para hablar sobre esta temática porque siempre he tenido algún problema relacionado con el sueño, aunque este ha variado con el paso del tiempo. De igual forma las consecuencias se han mantenido constantes, presentándose dificultades para dormir, sensación al despertar de no haber descansado nada, sueños plagados de pesadillas que generan intranquilidad durante el día y no permiten disfrutar del descanso… esto me ha llevado a saber apreciar la importancia de dormir dentro de la vida cotidiana, destacando que por sí solo no alcanza. Muchas personas piensan que es una tarea sencilla cuando no lo es, tener un sueño de calidad a veces no solamente implica acostarse, cerrar los ojos y entregarse a los brazos de Morfeo.
Durante la época de la niñez es bastante común que un niño se orine la cama, al menos, es lo que tengo entendido, pero existe cierto rango edad, no se espera que un niño mayor de seis años siga orinándose la cama. Por alguna razón esto me pasó infinidad de veces cuando estaba pequeña, probablemente muchas personas se sentirían avergonzadas por admitir algo así, a mí me parece que es algo de lo que se debería hablar con tranquilidad ya que es parte del proceso de desarrollo y no es culpa de nadie. Supongo que gran parte de este pensamiento proviene de cómo manejaron mis padres la situación, me apoyaron durante esa etapa con amor, con sus momentos de frustración normales pero al final con disposición para ayudarme a que me sintiera mejor, mi mamá asegurándose cada noche de que hubiese ido al baño antes de acostarme para minimizar las posibilidades.
Me costaba dormirme en las noches por miedo a que me orinaría la cama nuevamente, a veces tenía pesadillas donde sucedía, me levantaba asustada revisando si la cama estaba mojada pero esta se encontraba seca en su totalidad, luego cuando regresaba a dormir, al despertar por la mañana descubría que me había terminado orinando la cama. Quedarme en casa de amigos estuvo fuera de la lista de opciones por mucho tiempo por esta razón, hubiese sido particularmente traumático para mí que me pasara algo así en compañía de algún amigo. Para mi fortuna, una de mis tías siempre ha sido relajada conmigo y nunca le importó que me pudiera orinar en su cama, dormía en su casa con frecuencia cuando nos encontrábamos de vacaciones, esto hizo que fuera tomando confianza sobre dormir fuera de casa a pesar de que tuve algunos accidentes.
Cuando por fin superé este problema, llegó la adolescencia, una etapa donde dormir por las noches se convertía en una Odisea porque quería permanecer despierta y por eso me encontraba hasta altas horas de la madrugada todavía viendo la televisión, jugando a la PlayStation, pegada a la computadora leyendo mangas… demás está decir que durante el día parecía un zombi. Las luchas con mis padres por esta rutina dañina para mi salud se hicieron comunes, me llegaron a castigar un par de veces, por aquel entonces pensaba que estaban siendo exagerados, pero no los culpo, dormir en el día no nos proporciona la misma calidad en el descanso que dormir en la noche, es por ello que tener el reloj del sueño ajustado es importante para la salud. Tampoco voy a mentir, a veces tengo ciertos momentos en donde sigo durmiéndome de madrugada pero son muy pocos.
Durmiendo incluso más que Aquiles.
De haber un premio a la peor época de sueño en mi vida, se la llevaría aquella donde me encontraba luchando contra la depresión y ansiedad que todavía sigue conmigo aunque en menor medida. Habían días donde lo único que quería hacer era dormir pero cuando me despertaba se sentía como si un camión me hubiese pasado por encima, estaba muy cansada, por eso digo que no solamente con dormir basta. También pasé por momentos donde mi mente se encontraba pensando tanto que me era imposible dormir, es como si hubiese una rueda que girara infinitamente dentro de mi cabeza sin poder detenerla, una eterna película proyectándose con fragmentos distorsionados de muchas cosas que entre sí no tienen ningún sentido. Por esos días tenía pesadillas con frecuencia, no he podido olvida una en particular donde me ahogaba.
La situación mejoró cuando comencé a asistir a terapia y el levantamiento de pesas llegó a mi vida, fue capaz de seguir una rutina donde dormía temprano para levantarme en la mañana a hacer ejercicio, me sentía con más energía. Ahora me sigo despertando por la mañana pero no me duermo tan temprano como me gustaría, pero estoy intentando que mis obligaciones no se interpongan en conseguir un equilibrio respecto a mi salud, pues aunque por momentos sienta que el tiempo no me rinde para hacer todo lo que necesito hacer durante el día, siempre hay una forma de organizarse mejor, siendo conscientes de que los pequeños detalles importan. Por lo general cuando estoy en casa me limito a dos tazas de café negro al día para que mi sueño no se vea afectado, antes acostumbraba a tomar incluso más de cuatro pero me di cuenta que no me estaba haciendo bien.
Esta es mi última taza del día.
Dormir es una necesidad que de no ser tratada con la suficiente atención puede generar muchos problemas, los seres humanos necesitamos de descansos de calidad para seguir viviendo plenamente y no encontrarnos desprovistos de energía para realizar actividades de nuestro día a día. Gracias a los problemas que he encontrado en el camino, soy capaz de apreciar su importancia, sin tener miedo a realizar cambios en mi rutina diaria con tal de mejorar, buscando siempre herramientas que me ayuden a dormir mejor. Una de ellas fue la Respuesta Sensorial Meridiana Autónoma, descubrí que viendo videos sobre esto, conseguía dormirme con mayor rapidez y sintiendo que descansé más al despertar, pero sé que no es para todo el mundo, al principio puede ser un poco extraña pero a tener un impacto tan positivo en mí decidí seguir consumiendo este de contenido hasta ahora.
Fue un placer compartir mi experiencia con ustedes, espero que estén bien y nos encontremos en una próxima oportunidad.
Las fotos son mías, tomada de mi Redmi Note 5. La portada fue editada usando la página de Canva.
That wee thing as a child happens to so many people, I think I did too🙈, but never again, that's what sleep do to children, although it is difficult for children of nowadays to wee while sleeping.
It has been some time since I have heard of a child in my environment wetting the bed, I don't know if it stopped being so frequent, but I hope so because it is very uncomfortable.
I'm sorry for the delay in responding, between one thing and another I forgot.
Hey @gabrieladifazio ! Thanks you for your participation and the whole story of your evolution according to that thing that could be as simple or difficult depending on the person, sleep !
I also had a friend how had the same wetting issues and I know it doubled the fear or difficulties to find sleep as a child and even at the adolescent age... As you said it, this really why you do understand now the price of a good sleep after going through all of this !
I really appreciated the reading of this Odyssey in a so intimistic way and I thanks you again for that. As there's a lot of others articles I need to review as well, I will not be able to enter so much in the details... I hope you'll understand !
Take good care and see you soon ✌️
Hi, @anttn!
The difficulties we go through in our lives can serve as a source of learning to appreciate more essential things such as sleep in this opportunity.
Don't worry, I'm glad that people are feeling encouraged to participate in this sleep theme. I really appreciate you creating it and taking the time to respond to my post.
I hope you have a great day.
It was such a pleasure to read this. In a way, you highlighted my own experiences. I was also traumatized from bed wetting at some point but got over it as a more potent nightmare became the order of my sleep.
Working out has helped me a lot in improving the quality of My Life. A simple home workout boosts my energy level and enthusiasm. What I love most about it is the confidence.
I suffered clinical depression at one point in my life. I totally understand waking up and feeling tired still. It was awful. I won't say I'm totally over it but I'm growing out and haven't been stuck there in a while.
I read once that depression is something you never fully recover from, it will always be there in some way. I don't know if it's true, but I do agree that getting better is a constant work that should never stop, the important thing is to try to grow every day and move towards a future where we feel better.
I am glad to know that you are no longer in the same place you were before, knowing how to appreciate that progress is one of the key points to not go backwards, and I know from my own experience that it is not easy because internal doubts can wreak havoc. I wish you much success in this process.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with me.
I appreciate your beautiful reply. And Good Morning 🌞
I never thought one could get traumatized from bed wetting but hay, I learn new things everyday and I'm glad to know that.
I like the way you handle everything,✨
The trauma is real! Plus, if you suffer from anxiety like I do, it's a bad combination.
All these at once oh dear, I hope you're good though ✨