Sunday milestone
If you have been around this blockchain for as long as I have, you'll know that The Husband and I would host dinners in our home. Every Sunday. Also, in the years before we did that, virtually every Easter we'd gather a bunch of friends in the garden. Although everyone else's mantra that
It always rains at Easter!
would deter others, it never deterred us. And yes, there may have been rain over that weekend, but I cannot recollect one such Sunday when the weather gods didn't bless us.
So, when a friend of ours announced that she'd be visiting that weekend and then more importantly, that her move to the village would be before year end, I took a deep breath and donned the big girl panties and decided to "do" one of our traditions. Solo.
Truth be told, I was delighted that D was the reason: she was also the "reason" for one of the first dinner parties that The Husband and I ever threw. Also, in just over a week, it will be a year since The Husband left the village for the hospital. Never to come home.
It's also nearly a year since he indulged in one of his most favourite things: lighting a fire and cooking meat over that fire. In the braai room he built and which was our haven from the wind and weather. Literally.
It's been a long time since the dining room table was opened to its full extent and I contemplated its "blank canvass".
The garden that The Husband worked so hard to turn into a shady space - just for this type of event - has really begun to recover from the drought and more to the point, my neglect over the last year. With a little furniture rearrangement it was the perfect setting.
The Husband would have loved this. I missed him. D missed him and her highly rated braai skills were homage to a man we both loved in different ways.
McGregor painted a sunset like only she can paint. And when she did, The Husband would always hoick me out to share it with him. I miss that. All the time.
It was wonderful to share a meal and conversation, remember Tom and introduce D to a bunch of "my peeps" that she now feels are also part of "her" tribe.
The Husband would have been so happy.
As for me, I shed lots of tears as I am, now. His presence is one thing. His living presence another. I miss that.
Another milestone hurdled. Many more to go. I am sure.
Until next time
Fiona
The Sandbag House
McGregor, South Africa
Photo: Selma
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You've got me all teary-eyed, happy that you're back to doing your dinners, that it was a good day. But sad that the most important person in your life is no longer there to share it with you.
The McGregor sunset is stunning!
Thanks, Lizelle. I doubt there will ever be Sunday Suppers as they were. Certainly not like before Covid, anyway. It was good to break the ice. As it were! lol
Way to go tears an all, and we are glad that so many friends attended. Please know that you are in our prayers every day.
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Bless you both!
Thank you kindly!
Nice to see the table set, garden filled with welcome guests to enjoy reminiscing times with your husband. Stunning sunsets with views from the garden!
We have magnificent sunsets here.
What a nice garden for a gathering of friends. I have been moved reading the story of the absent loved one, the sunset is a beautiful gift to his memory. Best regards
Thank you
Oh so bittersweet. Looks like a lovely gathering, and I'm glad "D" will be joining the tribe. I don't imagine anyone will ever fill those shoes, but more loving people around can't hurt to soften those hurdles. A year. All at once a blink and just yesterday.
Indeed, Katie. It's hard to believe that it's a year ago next week that he went into hospital. It will be good to have D closer. We must have a DM catch up. I've been remiss....
This post got me all teary. Those pictures are so beautiful, I am in awe.
Thank you for sharing.
I came in from dreemport.
Very kind. Thank you.
It is beautiful to see the garden get back in shape with the beautiful colors dominating.
I can only imagine how much you miss him but I'm sure he's in a peaceful place and he wishes for you to be happy once again, and sharing some time with friends is a good way to live in the moment while remembering the good times you and him shared with friends.
I love your garden, so beautiful and captivating.
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Thank you. On both counts and for the !HUG
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It was a pleasure. Thanks for the hugging back too.
It's good to see the garden become beautiful again and having time with family and friends in such beauty is fun. I love the dining setting and the candles lit. It's painful your loved one is no more, be strong ma'am.
Thanks for sharing a wonderful post.
#dreemerforlife
Thank you very much.
You're welcome. ❤️