A hopefully temporary new normal
I have been not just AFK; I've been absent. It's been - still is - awful. It began just over two weeks ago, but neither of us, in the ensuing days, had any idea what would unfold. As I write, The Husband has been in ICU for nearly a week. After radical surgery and The Husband's almost miraculous recovery, he crashed. And then again. A week tomorrow, he'll have been on life support for seven days. That said, he has responded well to treatment and they're waking him up. Now we wait to see if he does wake up as himself.
In the meantime, I am grateful that I live in a village. It really does take a village.
Our local is a haven. Not for the alcohol, but because a friend runs it, and our friends frequent it. They miss The Husband almost as much as I do. It's a safe space where I can either quietly sit in a corner or stare into the fire.
And I can have supper for one and nobody looks at me funny. And I don't feel quite so alone. Not that I mind solitude. It's just, well, I haven't cooked for one for nearly 25 years. And cooking is my love language. Especially for The Husband.
Every time I go to visit him, it's a roughly 140km round trip. I don't mind the drive. I used to do a lot of country driving. It's becoming routine. I've lost count of the number of times I've driven it. I do try to time my trips for when I know the traffic will be easy: the route is a major transport route for large trucks. And, of course the odd crazy. Which brings me to today's road block.
I have no idea how many beasties there were in that flock...um...herd of goats, sheep and cattle. The Husband would have loved it. He'd have been able to tell you how many four legged creatures there were in that migration. And he'd have picked out the bovines that would be his specials. He loves cows. You might take the cattle farmer away from the farm, but you can't take away his love for the cattle.
I want him back.
Until next time
Fiona
The Sandbag House
McGregor, South Africa
Photo: Selma
Post script
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I wish him a speedy recovery.
As always...
I really believe that one has way more support in a small village than in the city with people all around, so you are in the best place Fiona although naturally not in the best space at the moment.
But it sounds like your man is fighting back, and silently saying
You and hubby are both in my heart, thoughts and prayers.
Our hopes and prayers are with you guys as you go through these times, and we sincerely hope that the hubby will make it.
Thoughts and prayers for you. I hope your husband has a quick recovery.
Sending well wishes and a spirit of ease in disconcerting times for you and healing vibes for your husband.
My goodness I am so sorry you are going through this! And that he's so far away. You're managing to find good in the world despite. That is astonishing.
I'll be sending good healing vibes your way. He will wake up and be The Hubby, I am sure.
You are in my thoughts. Sending big hugs to you and healing vibes to Tom 🤗
So sorry to hear about your husband's operation, I'm sure he will pull through and wake up a strong and healthy. Sending strong vibes to you.
So sorry to hear and glad that you have support around you.
Oh my goodness. I hope all turns out well and you can soon return to a sense of normalcy!
@fionasfavourites...
I give a shout-out to @nickydee, having commented on the Silver Bloggers Discord. You have already received so much positive energy and love. But gosh... can't have enough of that. Know that you and the family are in my thoughts. I refuse to think of anything other than the post you will soon share with us, that tells of the good things you and your husband have done... Love and light dear soul...
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Thank you, as always @wesphilbin. While this particular type of situation seems familiar to me due to my settings, you've exposed to me to some individuals' stories which have opened my perspectives a little bit further. I appreciate your tags - I get to expand my horizons!
You and your husband have certainly been through a lot, but your love for him shines through your words here, as well as your actions - to the degree that you even know what he'd think of the funny things you see on the road. It seems to me that even when he's not physically nearby you, he's still quite powerfully there, and will remain there.
The practice of medicine is not a miracle by any means, and ultimately there's no human who determine their fate, so ultimately we must all hope for the best, but stay prepared for anything. I hope that your husband recovers to a state where he can function comfortably again. Should worse come to worse... he will nevertheless survive and live within you, as he already clearly does. His impression has left its permanent mark on you. What a blessing that is!
If you ever need a virtual shoulder to lean on while going through this difficult time, that's absolutely ok: feel free to reach out to me for the support. We rely on each other to grow - we're programmed that way! And yes, you are very much worth it. 😊
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