It Worked for Me. It didn't Worked for You. So It's Just You.

I remember the time when I had plenty of events in life where I have noticed that I used to experience some events which only happened with me. And there were literally nobody to share the same experience there.

I always wanted to know if it was just me who did not made it work or there were others. I think along the way I found some answers which made it closer to the satisfactory point for the same.

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So let's discuss how it works for me but not for you and vice versa.

People Have Resource or Advantage of Time to Get Better Experience

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Think about it this way. Some people have the advantage of the time and money. They are in place where they reached ahead of us. And so they kind fo have better timing and situation than most of us.

In such case it's always a good idea to see what worked for you and what does not worked as of yet. Like those people experienced few things before us but they don't want to admit. And they just want strategic advantage for it. So that brings us to next point.

Many People Don't want to Admit it Happened to Them

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Sometimes accepting the ground reality is like reducing your clout. Like you had a bad experience while travelling? Accepting that puts you in same line with other suffering people. And nobody wants to have company of other people with same suffering around.

So they never admit that some times it did not worked for them. Or they had it working or not working. They just want to see the suffering of another person and not admit they too went through that issue in their life.

Accepting Similar Suffering Leads to Losing Advantage

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Think about it. If you accept you got hit by same thing like your neighbor may help you build a bond but does it help you in office? No. Because you are in competing mode in the office and the school or college. So often we choose to avoid accepting the similar suffering with each other.

A lot of times we get into disadvantage and end up forming the club of misery loves company type. And so in order to avoid getting friends of same type we have to learn to understand where to draw the line for sharing what we go through.

Conclusion

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So as you can see why get into disadvantage and attract the wrong set of the people. That is why we make sure to keep our own life in control by not attaching with people who always share suffering or whine about what didn't worked for them.

Have you noticed this sort of behavior in your life experience?