Help Yourself Before You Help the World
I have confession to make on a part where I always have thoughts of helping the world before I can get help for myself. I have my share of the issues where I struggle yet I never begged for help or asked for guiding me or more like spoon feeding me.
And that is one of my downfall so far. I am getting closer to 40s with that downfall of myself. And I want to change that. I want to learn how to make a habit of getting help for myself before I can think of helping the world.
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Learn to Secure Yourself
I must admit, I kind of suck at this. Like I don't know how to secure myself from the bad people. Or more like toxic people who are not safe for me. I kind of got exposed to the toxic people many times. And something like that I wanted to change many times.
This type of the practice requires you a bit selfish way. And you learn to secure yourself. I have to remind myself about this often and I will be definitely learning this before turning 40.
Learn to Read People
You feel like helping the world and you don't realize that people who are out there who don't have any strong way of living and they have their own script to work on in life. I think when you learn to read people you can understand who to help and who to never help.
But we often think in mass in computation and we don't realize we end up helping the bad people too while giving our help. So we have to understand that learning to read people is a necessity.
Learn to Help Your Present and Future
You could be thinking of past all the time. But you have to think of the present circumstances and also learn to think about the future. You have to understand that helping your own self today would help your future in the long term.
Building future means being selfish and getting help for your own self. This takes time and also requires some level of effort too. So I'd always recommend you to work on your goals and take time into account.
Conclusion
You can be empath and plan to help the world. But you need to setup a process to understand what people are and how you can help them without affecting your own self as well. This way you have to understand that you don't get hurt in the process.
It's good to help the world, but we have to secure our own self before changing the world.
What do you think?