CHILDREN, ENVIRONMENT, PEER GROUP × PERENTAL CONTROL TECHNIQUES

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Hello great minds here in @homeeders I salute you'all for the immerse, wonderful work done here, we all in different part of the big Globe united on this unique platform having a common ground to pour in our experience knowledge and understanding in various aspect of tutoring our young ones and by so doing we share this wealth of knowledge to one another despite were you are located.

I am a fan of children especially at tender age I just love having them around, maybe it's their innocent state that appeals to me or their eager to always try something new, that urge in them to always imitates or mimick what they see, it's that adventure for me,....

A child's mind is like a sponge it absorbs a lot, so that's why the upbringing of a child matters a lot everything that goes on around them sticks to their memory like a magnetic field pulling everything that is attracted to it, on its path

This bring me to the issue of

ENVIRONMENT
Environment in this case is not just the building or the trees or the surrounding but it constitute your neighborhood, locality, the prevailing activities in that region or district. This goes a long way to have a great influence on your child or ward, most time as parents we tend to neglect this part, probably maybe by discipline they will not yield to the craving of things outside, remember what that a child's mind just want to fill things up quickly whether it be good or bad, there is no much difference what ever they see would somehow find it way into the child's mind.

Imagine growing up in a district filled with crime, robbery theft, they so called ghetto, children in this areas always end up becoming like those who carry out these acts whether their parents were priest or not, care and attention must be given to the areas we want choose to live as parents not for our sake but taking into consideration our children well being and lifestyle as it would be, influenced by these environmental factors.

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PEER GROUP
This is a product of the environment encountered in schools, social gathering, Neighborhood, church gatherings, friends and acquaintance. The truth about this is that we are not always with them whenever they hangout with friends, we re not aware of the things the do or say, we are not aware of so many things whenever your child is out of your confined, peer group do have a lot of influence in the up bringing of a child, know why? Cause kids just want to be free and just run away from the confined of their parents and into the arms of their friends because they believed that they understand them better and they are able to express themselves among.

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Peer group is not only of the negative influence we normally grow up with this concept, there are also positivity to this side.

Peer Group are powerful forces that triggers group coordination, socialize behaviors and a good sense of team work.

Peer relationships gives children this sense of acceptance and help them build social skills, over come fears, public activities and help them socialize and express themselves among friends.

PARENTAL CONTROL TECHNIQUES
Parental controls is all about ways by which parents exert restrictions, cautions and supervises how their kids do certain things and online activities, watching TVs, certain programs not suitable for them, puting a measures to the amount of time a child spends on any of these things.

But in this write up I'm more concerned about one on one personal control on your child ways to get them to see and understand things the way we do.

Parents especially in Africa normally do not have this understanding that the maturity of their mindset and how they see things is totally quite different from a child's mind which is still developing and thus certain things are not clear to them at that stage.

In Africa were children are beating, maltreated, shouted at, verbally abused for not doing a thing well the way the parent want it to be done, once they give instructions they believed that these children should understand it well and do it so well as they would have done it themselves. These has now created a totally different upbringing for these kids that pushes them to tilt towards confined of their peers and beginning to engage in whatever activities just to gain acceptance and be loved by them.

These TECHNIQUES will come Handy

Make your Child your best friend
You see children at a very tender age till they grow into adulthood really need a good amount of the love portion from you, as a parent, the way you treat them as a precious gift continue that way even when they are all grown up show them How much you love and care for them, these way they would naturally not want to engage in things that would hurt you or make you want to hate them, when they're matured enough to understand certain things open up to them about almost everything let them know they have you 100% these love and care will restraint them from falling into the hands of negative influence.

BE KIND WITH YOUR WORDS
MOST times in Africa (just as I was) children are verbally abused and these words go as far as to make up this child personality, these words find a place in their hearts and begin to breed negative emotional feelings about themselves, like they re worthless, useless, stupid, foolish and all of those ill-spoken words.

We all know how powerful words are and how it have so powerful effect on us, talk much more of Children that are so fragile at heart, next time be careful of the choice of words you use on your child no matter how angry and disappointed you may feel at the moment.

DO MORE OF DIALOGUE
I am one person that believe in dialogue because I see it that if one has an understanding of a thing then he or she would act according to knowledge and understanding of that thing, some time in Africa parents assume alot of things about children that they understand and so when they go wrong they get so angry and disappointed with them.

There should be no room for assumption do more of heart to heart talk with your child untill you understand that they see things your way that they Truly understand it and the more you do this the more closer to you they are and are able to confined secret things with you knowing you understand well enough not to judge them...

I am @eminentsam48 thanking you for reading thru and never backing out
MUCH APPRECIATED 💯👍💞

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