RE: Fostering Authentic Camaraderie and Healthy Competition
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Certainly being or not being with other children of the same age is not a guarantee of the development of social skills. Much has been said about what the confinement due to the pandemic has caused as negative consequences as far as social relationships and children are concerned, however, as you rightly point out, the interaction with different groups of people makes our children gain a greater knowledge of how to function socially, hence, as you mention, a child can have the maturity to talk to an adult and at the same time the innocence and creativity of his age. On the other hand, I love the advice you give to encourage healthy competition although I have been against the term competition, I am a teacher and maybe I see things differently, because from my point of view the term refers precisely to the fact that there is a winner or a loser and if I know that in the history of mankind we have always been judged in that way, I think we should encourage the construction of favorable situations where the center is the sharing beyond establishing a mark or measure, so I like what you say about establishing the differences because in the end we are all different and each one develops according to its own rhythm and style. Thank you for sharing.
Yes, competition can be both, positive and negative. I very much see it the same, when there are "losers and winners". Depends on the field of resonance when a game was won by one kid or one team and how the others react to that winning. If the "losers" are sad, mad and disappointed and appear hostile to the winners team, the winners lose, too. Feeling joy about having beaten another one is very different from the feeling of having succeeded in something for the self.
@emimoron - Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.
The word competition brings a lot of different emotions for different people. Some revel in "destroying" others. Some falsely identify themselves as "losers" because of how they have been treated.
I see your concern with the idea of competition. But as you mentioned, competition is a historic reality. My hope is that my kiddos see how to engage in competition in a healthy way (as it appears that will not be able to avoid it completely). That will be challenging, but I hope it is a lesson my kiddos learn as they "develop according to 'their' own rhythm and style."
Again, thanks for stopping by and sharing.