LOCC #84 La Posición dentro de la Familia// Position within the Family
Crecí en una familia constituida por dos varones y dos niñas y mi posición la tercera dentro de este cuarteto, al estar en esa posición siempre estuve bajo la vigilancia de mis dos hermanos mayores a quienes les dieron la responsabilidad de velar por sus hermanos menores.
Se dice que los hijos de medio son los niños sandwiches por ser quienes están en medio de los dos extremos, en mi caso fui tratada como la hija menor a quien debían de proteger, de niña me gusto, pero a la medida que crecía me molestaba ser vista como una minusvalida, incapaz de hacer cosa por si sola.
Además de estar en la tercera posición desde muy pequeña, mi salud siempre fue delicada por lo que mis padres y mis hermanos me sobreprotegían mucho, esto propicio que fuese creciendo como una niña introvertida, poco segura de sí misma.
Por algún tiempo estuve exenta de realizar labores del hogar, lo que me generaba culpa por no poder colaborar con mi hermana mayor, quien era la que tenía la mayor responsabilidad de estos quehaceres, ya que a mi madre nunca le agrado que mis hermanos ayudasen en los oficios de la casa.
Cuando fuimos creciendo tuvimos que ir asumiendo por cuenta propia algunas tareas del hogar, sin necesidad de que mi madre hiciera alguna distribución sobre las mismas, esta dinamica me dio la oportunidad de salir del cascarón en el cual había estado por mucho tiempo metida.
Después de haber estado bajo la sobre protección familiar, busque prepárame para tener independencia, he logrado alcanzar metas que me trace a pesar de las lesiones emocionales que tuve debido de estar bajo cuidados excesivos por parte de mis padres, quienes lo hicieron pensando que era lo mejor para mí.
Me ha agradado reflexionar sobre este aspecto de mi vida, gracias a las preguntas elaboradas por @justclickindiva puede hacer una revisión introspectiva sobre mí, así cierro la mi participación al LOCC de la semana.
I grew up in a family consisting of two boys and two girls and my position was the third in this quartet, being in that position I was always under the watchful eye of my two older brothers who were given the responsibility of watching over their younger siblings.
It is said that the middle children are the sandwich children because they are the ones who are in the middle of the two extremes, in my case I was treated as the youngest daughter who should be protected, as a child I liked it, but as I grew up I resented being seen as a handicapped, unable to do anything on their own.
In addition to being in the third position since I was very young, my health was always delicate, so my parents and my siblings overprotected me a lot, this led me to grow up as an introverted girl, not very sure of herself.
For some time I was exempted from doing housework, which made me feel guilty for not being able to collaborate with my older sister, who was the one who had the greatest responsibility for these chores, since my mother never liked my siblings to help in the housework.
As we grew up, we had to take on some household chores on our own, without the need for my mother to distribute them. This dynamic gave me the opportunity to break out of the shell in which I had been for a long time.
After being under the overprotection of my family, I sought to prepare myself to have independence, I have managed to achieve the goals I set for myself despite the emotional injuries I had due to being under excessive care from my parents, who did it thinking it was the best for me.
I was pleased to reflect on this aspect of my life, thanks to the questions elaborated by @justclickindiva can make an introspective review about me, so I close the my participation to the LOCC of the we.
Being protected can be sweet but when it gets too much, it can be suffocating. Family seeks to hold and protect their precious. Happy that you finally got to be dependent on self.
Certainly, it was suffocating, but you have to learn to set limits and remember that you are the main thing in life. Thanks for comment @deraaa
Sometimes in the hope of protecting us, our parents don't realize they are curtailing our growth in some ways. I am happy to know that you found your way out through that shell and become independent in the end :)
Life itself invited me to break that shell, it was that or lose the opportunity to live my way, thanks for commenting @ifarmgirl
Life has a way of making us learn things :) My pleasure to read and thank you too❤
Nuestra familia siempre quiere lo mejor para nosotras, aunque a veces no nos damos cuenta.
Por lo visto esa sobreprotección te sirvió para que te dispusieras a ser independiente. Quizás ese es un logro importante que le debes a ellos. Ahora felizmenete lograste la independencia. A disfrutar y compartir. En estos momentos debes estar mirando la vida diferente
Feliz día @devania
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Hello @devania. It's interesting you called it the "sandwich child". I've heard this term also for the middle children. Kind of forgotten sometimes in certain families. Sounds like you were the center of attention (being in the middle) surrounded by parents and siblings due to your delicate health.
What I've realized in my adulthood is that my parents didn't always know what was best. They coddled the ones who shouldn't have been and left others alone who needed protection and extra guidance. When you have a large family, it happens like that sometimes.
When I was young I told my parents to tend to the others; that I could take care of myself. Somehow I had a clear head and was surrounded by siblings who weren't as clear and focused. In that regard, I think I opened my mouth too wide because responsibilities were taken from others and given to me. But the experiences made me stronger and more independent at an earlier adult age I feel.
I'm happy to hear you have control over your adulthood and independence.
Thanks for sharing. Take care.
I see myself in a certain way reflected in what you say, I also began to take on responsibilities that did not correspond to me to show that I could, a decision in which I left very emotionally affected, but it left me with a great learning of life. Thank you for your comment in which I have seen myself reflected @justclickindiva
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