THE WEIGHT OF BEING A DECISION MAKER
Designed using CanvaGenerally as humans and especially as adults, we are saddled with the responsibility of making decisions in a lot of situations and a lot of times as well. It shapes how our life is and determines how things get to be in our lives. However, because we are not perfect and we definitely do not see the future, some of our decisions turns out to be the best while some turn out to be a nightmare. Coping with the turnout of events also vary from one person to another.
I consider myself a critical thinker, but I am not even going to lie, I sometimes overdo it and it eventually affects my choices. I tend to overthink about things a lot and paint a lot of scenarios in my head. The only silver lining is that, most times, I see things coming, even the disappointments. So, it’s not entirely a bad thing, but I have realized it’s important to know how to not overdo it.
Some decisions actually don’t need to stress over it too much, it’s either it works or it doesn’t. However, it still depends on you to make that decision and be responsible for the results that come after. I think this is the hardest part of decision making—taking responsibility. Because apparently, the outcome of our decisions can either be good or bad.
The first step I take before making any decision is to critically take a look at the situation of things. Then, I weigh the available options after. This might leave me to be indecisive sometimes and that can lead to three things. It’s either I just simply go with one I feel might be the best option, or I over analyze the situation (not so healthy though), or I just seek another person’s point of view on the situation. This works like magic because I get more clarity of the decision to take.
Honestly, this doesn’t come with a timeframe because again, the situations can be different. So, basically, it’s until I gain clarity on a situation that I go ahead to make decisions on then. I know it’s important to not take too much time, so I always keep that in mind.
Life goes on! I check if there is a remedy to the situation (life gives second chances sometimes) and if there isn’t, I just accept it, get wiser, and handle things better next time. ’There is no need crying over spilt milk’, I always tell myself that. I used to get so worked up about things and when I realized that it actually does more harm than good to me, I took a chill pill and chose the better approach to it. In life, things won’t always go one’s way, disappointment is inevitable. That is why it is just better to keep an open mind, even to life itself.
Thanks for reading❤️
One of the first few things to consider when making a decision are the options available then, the advantages.
Worring over a spilt milk doesn't do any good, rather, it wastes time and energy.
I’m glad you agree with me. The earlier one accept the failure, the earlier one finds alternative or a way to move forward.
Yeah, less worry moves you forward.
Assuming responsibility is important. And I think that speaks very well of you as a person. It's a little bit complicated to deal with people who don't want to take responsibility for what they say and what they do. It's easier for them to blame someone else or factors outside of themselves. The saddest thing about it is that they consider it admissible and so they manage to go through life quietly without it bothering them. How sad. Good job. Regards @creativepearl
You explained it perfectly, and I couldn’t agree more with you. Thank you very much for your comment.
As adults we need to take decisions over every thing we do, and not taking a decision is also a decision. One thing is important is that we learn from every decision we take, even though they don't go as planned we should learn from it incase of making the same decisions in the future.
Yeah, you get it honestly. It's is even a win as well if things don't go according to plan, you get to learn from it and make better decisions later. It all just shapes you into becoming a better person.
I am glad that you saw my point of view.
Sometime, hesitating to make a decision stems from fear of failure, we naturally don't like failing or probably have this perfectionist mindset and that hinders us from taking action, good to see you've noticed this about yourself and you're doing well in terms of making decisions.
That is very correct, and the truth is that you can never be too careful in this life.
Thank you so much for your comment❤️
Hello @creativepearl
We've noticed that your engagement with other authors is poor, and that's not encouraging at all. You need to make comments on the post of others and also reply to comments on your posts as well. This is to foster growth within the community.
Thank you for pointing that out. I did engage with other authors, but I will do better than I have done.
I wish one could just switch off the overthinking button easily but I have realized it takes a conscious effort to reduce and eventually stop it. It's definitely not easy but it can be done.
Me too! I sometimes wish I could just snap a finger and reset everything. It really takes a level of intentionality to work on this, you just have to take charge of your own mind.