Entering "the World" Full of Surprises!

Hello all amazing mothers in this community! How are you doing? Hopefully you are all doing great! This is my first time writing in the motherhood community and I want to share you a little about flashbacks to my early life when I had become a mother for the first time.

Becoming a mother is full of surprises. Being a mother is not easy, in fact it is very difficult and I think that is what all mothers in the world feel. As soon as I got married, it wasn't long before I was blessed with a son by God. I am very grateful for that because that is my goal in getting married, to quickly have children because at my age it is also time to have a child. When I was pregnant, that's when I really had my first experience with a lot of drama, starting from nausea. Strangely, I started getting nauseous every time I was in the car and the smell in the car made me nauseous so I brought eucalyptus oil to inhale the smell in my nose so I wouldn't vomit.

See? He's so into music!^^

As time went by, my whole physique had changed, starting from my weight which had definitely increased, my face had also changed a little with the appearance of pimples and my back also has lots of pimples, my nose also looked swollen or wide, and it looked really weird but quite funny I think, hmmm... truly an unforgettable experience.

When I got older in my pregnancy and my stomach got bigger, there were more and more challenges because I found it difficult to sleep because I was uncomfortable with the sleeping position and the movement of the baby in my stomach, my waist hurt especially when I got up from lying down, it felt like my body couldn't stand up enough and it hurt in my waist, I also experienced urinary tract infections, and many more. Those days felt so hard and so long. However, I still strengthen myself and remain grateful for that situation. What I think is that my child is healthy and doing well. That's the most important thing, isn't it?

In short, after 9 months of pregnancy, I actually planned to have a normal birth and it turned out that it was not possible to give birth normally because at that time I didn't feel anything or feel the pain of contractions in general even though it was already time for my baby to come out.

Finally I decided to have a cesarean section and set a date for giving birth and that was September 12, Tuesday. That day was quite an exciting day and I still remember that early in the morning, I was at the hospital and preparing for surgery. I remember my father came to accompany me, my mother and my husband were there. The birth process went smoothly and I remember the operation being very tense. I am grateful that my baby boy is healthy and normal, everything is in good condition.

From there I officially became a mother and from then on the struggle began. I experienced something called baby blues and it made me quite stressed. I once felt very sad and cried because at that time my child was sick. I cried when I felt I couldn't give the best to him, when breastfeeding or caring for him. Several times when my child was around 6 months old, he fell out of bed and it made me very shocked and cried and very worried and frightened. At that time I panicked and I couldn't even do anything. I am a mother who cannot bear to see my child sick or injured. I will be very panicked and scared, that's my weakness. I can't be a mother who can calm down and handle the situation, I can't. I know very well that this kind of attitude is not good and I am in the process of becoming a stronger mother. I'm learning and I believe all mothers in this world are still learning to be a good mother for their children.

We as mothers are also humans who still cannot escape from mistakes and shortcomings for our children. When we care for our child, raise him, accompany him every day from waking up until going to sleep again, bathing him, playing with him, feeding him, teaching him to sit, stand and leading him to walk and run, it all takes a long and not easy process. When he falls ill and we have to really take care of him until we finally send him to school. It really requires patience and persistence as a mother.

Not only in terms of the child's physical appearance, in terms of the child's upbringing it is also very important. How to teach good behavior to other people and older people, how to be friendly and not naughty to friends, and respect parents, things like that must be taught slowly to them because they are still small. Things like that really have to be done from an early age because otherwise it will be too late and have a bad impact on their future adulthood. All of this seems trivial but it is very important and cannot be underestimated.

All mothers in the world will also try to give the best to their children. I myself am no exception, I want my child to grow up to be a good child, obedient and especially afraid of God. On every birthday I always celebrate my child's birthday, even though it's not extravagant, it's enough to make him happy. At the age of 6, this is not an easy struggle. I have one difficulty, my child is an active child and he is smart. He tends to like music more than academics at school. So his level of progress tends to be a little behind his peers at school. Several times at school he also got injured in the area of his hands quite a bit like scratch marks from his friends and my son is someone who can't talk about what he experienced while at school. I always ask him every time he comes home from school how he was at school, what he learned and he can't answer well so I don't really understand him at school either.

For now, I'm still trying and always discussing it with my hubby. He always helps me in every difficulty I face and I am grateful. I still have to continue learning to be a good mother and I will always be firm when my child does something bad, then teach him what is right with patience. Because the most difficult thing is controlling our emotions, isn't it when we face our children? and it is normal that we may feel sometimes carried away by emotions or feelings when we teach our children, but in the future we will be able to learn and become better.

What I want to share is one important thing here is to enjoy every moment with our children, wherever and whatever the situation we are facing, whatever difficulties we have, still enjoy every moment with our children because that time will never come back and be repeated again! ^^

That's all my writing this time, I hope you like everything about motherhood that I share with you. May we all always be given health and enthusiasm to always be the best mothers in the world! See you in the next content in this community. Thank you to everyone who always supports me, I so much appreciate it! ^^

CharinaKim