LOH #173: Always Be Mindful

I've given it some thought for days before I finally answer this question by @jane1289.

The month of love is still in the air. As a lady, what do you consider more: Careful decisions about whom to love, or the freedom to be spontaneous about it? Do you care more about present moments or future results of your decisions? Why?

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I was hesitant because I don't think I could share an inspiring answer. Yet ladies, please take this in a form of awareness and be cautious whom to be with in the future.

Known to some, I'm a single mom, where the roots happened 6 years ago at my first job. Honestly, being an introverted kind of person made me naive in some ways such as socializing and how to sense someone who is true to me or not. I was a gullible person, and I could easily believe what you wanted me to believe.

So, I met this guy at work. He was a good co-worker and also the best at flattery. I was a kind of a lady who was deprived with words of affirmation while growing up, so his words were like a food to my soul that I easily got attached with him as I consumed most of it. Having freedom for the first time in my life where no one will be guarding me most of the time anymore added sparks to his cooking. Shortly after months, I got swept away by my spontaneity and newly discovered emotions, then rode the waves until I was almost drowned if I hadn't made it on shore on time.

Knowing him and believing his words were my biggest mistake. What I'm trying to share here is that, we, ladies, should be mindful whom to love. Not just because the whims of youth sparks some electrifying moments in your life, you have to jumped right in and putting aside any doubts, considerations, and compromising your future.

Our future must be the priority above all love. At the end of the day, we will face the consequences of our actions. You wouldn't be as energetic and full of life as you are in your teens. In the future, you will be sitting in the rocking chair, so you better be mindful whom to be with that will pour you an afternoon tea while watching your plants on the porch.

It's not just always about those rainbows and butterflies, nor the sweet pies and chocolates, but also with a cup of tea or coffee with it. Bitter, but if paired with sweets, it will become a great combination that you'll never get tired of to intake your whole life. Let my experience be your awareness that not all sweets can be good for you. Most of the time, you need the balance, so choose to love someone who's not only good with flattering words, but also can cry, suffer, and reason out with you without getting tired of it and choosing someone else instead of being of faithful through thick and thin.

Love is a beautiful thing, but let's be mindful whom to give our love with.