To help or not to help?

I get more tired recently from the kids’ sickness and the news feed about the war. I mean emotionally it makes me empty. That of course effects physical weakness. I stopped doing art if you noticed. I understand at the same time that there are people and kids who suffer way more than I am. In fact I’m not suffering at all if we compare my situation to theirs.

I think I can understand their suffering to some extent because I had hard times in my childhood that I wouldn’t want any kids to experience. But being bombed and scared to get killed any minute and not knowing when it all will stop… No I can’t imagine how that feels.

I wish all kids in the world could have happy childhood, loving parents, caring community, and safe lives. Is it even possible?

I think if all adults would understand that and start getting together trying to do fundraising and make sure all the funds go where they’re supposed to go it’d be possible. But knowing how many scams are out there, and people who would only care about their own prosperity rather than hungry orphans, it seems almost impossible.

And this is quite a difficult decision to help or not to help. Each person makes his own decision. There are some people that help without even thinking. They are like heros who jump in the water to save a drowning person.

Long time ago, when I was a kid I attended English courses. I remember reading a story there. So there was a boy, he was walking along the shore, picking up a starfish and throwing them back in water. Some adult saw that and told him that it’s impossible to save all of them. (Sounds wise,right?)
To which boy responded, holding another starfish in his hand, that at least he can save this starfish right now.

So there are people who jump into helping right away no matter what, sacrificing their own time and money. There are people who want to make sure that it’s right thing to do and want some transparency in whether money went in right direction. And there are people who either don’t care or think that government or special workers have to take care of the situation.

I used to be a person who could jump for help, but it was a long time ago, when I was young and single. I don’t know probably I had a lot of energy, enthusiasm, believing that there is more kind people than unkind.
I also could afford spending more and didn’t have to take care of anyone.

Now it’s a bit harder, I once was trying to help a mom with a kid who had cancer. I was selling used toys to raise some money. It wasn’t much though.

I also was trying to help my daughter’s friend’s mom to raise some money when she lost her husband.

I like helping people in need but it’s hard to do when I have to take care of my own kids, and sometimes I want to be able to help my mom. She doesn’t ask for it but I feel like it’s right when grown up kids help their parents in any way they can.

I don’t really have a conclusion here of what's right and what’s wrong, I think people will see it themselves if they have open heart. I don’t think we have to go too far to be able to help people in need. It can be your neighbor, or your friends. With the people you know in person, there is an advice. Don’t expect anything in return, if it was considered a help, otherwise someone will end up getting offended (thinking that it’s not fair).

I think that God will be the One who will give you back, but not in this life. At least don’t expect it in this life. Think of it as how would you want your relatives to be treated in a difficult situation when you’re not there to help them. Wouldn’t it be nice to see that some kind people are helping them? That’s the answer to all of us.

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