It is time to be Positive

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It is past the mid night, quarter to two, when I am starting writing this post. After finding about the dreemport & Ecency third week’s first challenge, I kept on thinking how to demonstrate love to myself in a way that would be appealing to the readers. I didn’t come up with an idea for a write up that would sound amazing and perfect. My mind kept on struggling then there came a voice from my heart, “Heyyyy, it is about love to yourself. How can you love yourself when you will keep on struggling to meet the requirements and desires of others. Love yourself unconditionally. Love yourself the same way you think others deserve to be loved. Love yourself the way you are without putting the pressure on you being an ideal. For loving yourself you need not to be perfect but positive.”

Finally, I decided to bring forth whatever comes out of my heart in a flow. Lol. I think the pipe line is choked at some places; that’s why the flow is not fluent 😂. (Oh, how I forgot the instruction of being not sarcastic 🙈)

Okay, I am quite serious now. I knew it would be difficult for me to express love to myself, but I didn’t know that it would be this much difficult. Huuuuuh! Telling you the truth, I feel awkward when somebody gives me compliment. I don’t really know how to take them and respond to them. At times, I feel like those compliments are an exaggeration of my actions or traits (or whatever). Perhaps, I am too harsh on me. I am someone who beats herself when she accomplishes 9/10 tasks for her to-do list. Instead of feeling like a success on performing 9, I feel failure for not doing 1. I am someone who puts extra tasks in her responsibilities and then forgets herself in the fulfilment of those duties. If some of those duties aren’t performed well, regret and sorrowfulness surrounds me. In such a situation, I felt like the contest by @snook promoted by @dreemsteem as the first task for the week is a breeze of fresh air. Sometimes, we need to be emphasised to be positive about ourselves and only then we realize how important the thinking about our own selves is important to modify everything in our surroundings. Extracting real happiness from our surroundings is impossible without cultivating it inside ourselves. For this purpose, being positive about oneself is crucial.

Now, I think I can move forward to answer the questions asked by snook.

Where are you the happiest?

For a long time, I have been craving for a place where I can attain solitude. I want to have an environment where I can perform the activities I love with complete focus without any distraction and voices in the head.

I feel happy when I read a book or complete certain writing. I feel happy when I paint or prepare an art piece. I feel happy when I decorate, organize, clean and/or rearrange my surroundings. Yes, these actions make me feel happy because they are the expression of my inner self. These are the activities that nourish my soul. However, I would only feel happiness doing them if I have solitude.

What positive traits can you bring to a team?

Something positive about me is that I can work both ways comfortably, alone and as part of a team. Depending on my position in the team I can bring many positive traits to it. As a leader, I bring organization and management to the task. A long with it, I try to take into account the needs of all the members and allot them task according to their capacities. Also, I try to motivate my team and let them see things in a positive light. As a member of the team, I demonstrate responsibility by completing the required task on time.

What is something positive about you that some might see as negative?

Once a cousin of mine said to me why I do not try to prove myself right in an argument. She was like it is not good to quit an argument without defending oneself.
I am someone who avoids falling into arguments often. Life is not about proving right or wrong all the time. If someone has an opinion or liking why I should argue. Everyone is free. Even if someone is thinking negative about me, I can’t change the opinion via debate. So, why to waste my energy doing this.

Another thing that people deem negative in me is that I do not react to things with emotions. I don’t react to things with active emotions do not mean that I lack emotions. By not reacting instantly I get a chance to evaluate the circumstances logically. This way, I can find the solution instead of ranting uselessly

What has been/is your favorite positive surprise about Hive?

The whole Hive is a positive surprise to me. Before being on Hive, I was on another platform which came to an end. After the death of the platform, I was feeling homeless. Then with the guide of Dreemport’s team I found my way to Hive and soon I realized that the failure of the previous platform was a blessing in disguise for me. Hive offers better opportunities to grow as a writer. There are surplus contest on various topics that keep the spirit for writing high.

The community based writing system on Hive is quite healthy in terms of improving my expression and writing skills. I find the right audience for the content I write. Also, I easily find the content of my interest to read and relate with.

One of the most beautiful feeling on earth is the feeling of being heard. Hive gives this very feeling. Hive provides me a vent for my emotions and feelings. When I get the comments of my fellows, it broadens my vision about my circumstances. Sometimes I find the solution to my problems. Sometimes, I find the motivation. In this way, Hive has a great impact on my life.

The monetary benefit attached to Hive cannot be overlooked. Because of Hive, it became possible for me to buy things that I had long been desiring to purchase, including my new mobile.

I once participated in a contest by Dreemport where I got surprise I didn’t think of. I won 87 HBD which is quite a good amount in my currency. It was the unexpected goodie that came my way via Hive.

Above all, being on Hive gives me a feeling of worthiness and usefulness. I feel like making an impact on others lives in my own small ways. Also, the positive people with whom I am connected because of Hive have a lot to do in filling my life with positivity in general. I am elated to be a part of this wonderful platform

At the end, I would like to thank the amazing souls behind organizing this contest and spreading positive vibes all around.

THANK YOU SO MUCH

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Gif



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Wow wonderful post with wonderful thoughts that we should always believe our awesomeness. And it is the extract of life because if we are not believing in ourselves then we are foolish. And then we should not expect others that they will believe in us. Thanks for sharing.

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True. Loving oneself is important. Unless we value us, no one else would.

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Thanks for sharing more of yourself. I can relate to some of those things too.

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Thanks for coming around. I would like to know which things you relate to and how?

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For example, feeling awkward when receiving a compliment, but I am trying to learn to gratefully accept it and say thank you. And reacting to things with lots of emotion, perhaps sometimes can come across as being cold. 😊

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You're just so adorable Amber, I think you are all you've said and start treating yourself worth because you deserve it.

Not trying to argue for me is a really good trait but hope you do correct something that is wrong because of you don't I think it's not really good.

Hive has been an amazing place for us all and with Dreemport in it, it keeps being a perfect place for anyone and everyone.

Dreemport brought me here 🥰.

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hope you do correct something that is wrong because of you don't I think it's not really good.

I apologise for the things I do wrong. No need for argument na.

with Dreemport in it, it keeps being a perfect place for anyone and everyone

That's the truth. Dreemport intensifies the positivity of Hive.

Thanks for stopping by, Hope ♥️

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Sorry dear, I never meant to argue 😂.

You're welcome dear 😘.

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Wow....you made it to dropping the post🤗. You are a strong woman. Keep loving yourself more and more. Everyone owes his or herself much love before extending it to others.

Hive has been a wonderful place like home for me as well. We will keep getting better 👍

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Yayyyyy! I made it dropping. I could drop it at 4 o clock. Hehe.

Hive has been a wonderful place like home for me as well. We will keep getting better 👍

With the amount of effort you are putting, I am sure, Nkem, you will out grow.

Lot of !LUV

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You seem quite logical. I like that you do not react to things with emotion. This is one attribute I have been trying to learn for a long time. Emotion sometimes clouds judgement. It's interesting to know you paint. Maybe someday you'd share your painting with us.

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It has been really long I did my last painting, some 9 years ago.. I do crave for doing all the art activities I loved doing before but there is scarcity of time and the apt atmosphere. I wish I would make it happen again in future.

Thanks for coming around, zyzy 🥰

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Scarcity of time, that's one challenge with marriage. I hope someday when your sons are grown up, you'd find the time again.

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You're a very special woman, my Sis... you have compassion and integrity and a quiet voice that does not still... I love that about you. You make yourself heard in important ways... and you don't need a loudspeaker to do it! I have loved seeing your writing develop over this past year and am loving getting to know you even more. And you bring a sense of the real... with calmness and sensibility that is so refreshing. Love you!

!ALIVE !PIZZA

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You made me overwhelmed with love ❤ with this comment, Sam.

I feel blessed to be surrounded with loving and genuine people like you. ♥️♥️♥️🤗

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hehehehe hello lovely!!!!!!

I was laughing that it didn't take very long for you to be sarcastic!! LOLOLOl but... you quickly stopped yourself hehe so that was good!

I knew that it would be hard for you to mention things that you were good at - but you did a GREAT job!

you know - a lot of people were saying that they were happy in solitude - hehe I think this isn't that hard to understand - because we are all on Hive! and most people here love to be online (and be home, in their rooms hahahahaha)

so I was laughing at that saying - yep! so true for many of us! LOL

I'm so glad that you took the leap and shared your heart - you did fabulous, as I knew you would. and I hope that it helped you to pause and realize that you are an amazing person!!!

yes.
you
YOU!!!!!!!!1
amazing!!!!!!!!!!!

so - just sit there and smile and blush and take it all in - because YOU ARE AMAZING!
HEHEHEHEE

oh - and... here is a DREEMIE! LOL

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you quickly stopped yourself hehe so that was good!

You know, I cannot go against your advice.

Thanks for all the goodies you brought to my life

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I enjoyed reading this and learning about the person you are. We have that in common how we like to make an impact on other's lives in small ways. After being here for several years and knowing the ropes this is what I like to spend most of my time doing…helping others. I’m glad to know you like doing the same :)

I’m glad you have been able to connect and feel useful here, that really motivates one’s stay. I never thought a social platform could change my real life so much but that’s exactly what Hive did. I too am able to buy things I’ve been wanting. Lately however, with the way the economy has been I’ve had to use my funds to help with family necessities. It’s really a blessing to be able to help my household ~

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I also had never thought that an online life could bring so many changes in my offline life, but it did. There came several changes in my life circumstances and in my personality. Thanks fully all are positive.

Helping others is like paying back yo those who helped me. When the chain of help goes on, the world becomes a better place. 😌

Thanks for visiting my blog. It is really nice to see you ♥️♥️

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So nice! Especially that the changes were all positive. 😊

For sure! It was my pleasure to visit ~ 💗

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Ohhh! fix your contest tag :D

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Oh! I couldn't figure it out. I do make the ammendments.

Thank you

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