The ties that bind us as a family (ENG/ESP) Los lazos que nos une como familia
Los lazos que nos une como familia
Cuando venimos al mundo pocos somos las personas que crecemos con nuestros familiares sanguíneos, no recuerdo bien donde lo leí, pero en realidad la sangre a veces no nos une como familia, hay lazos y cuestiones más lógicas que nos une, y sí, la sangre nos une como familia a nuestros hermanos, a nuestros padres e incluso a nuestros primos sin olvidar a los hijos. Tenemos también aquellos que se llaman familiares legales, en este punto es cuando digo somos pocos los que crecemos con familiares sanguíneos, aunque no es desafortunado, sino más bien un privilegio los que tienen aquellas personas las cuales alguien que no lleva su sangre los adopta para darles una familia, en este tipo de familia entran también los lazos con los esposos.
No obstante, valores como el respeto, el amor, la honestidad y la comunicación nos hace familia no de todos, pero, si de aquellos amigos los cuales a pesar de las circunstancias y de los factores siempre están ahí para ti sin importar lo que pase. Un familiar sin importar el lazo al cual pertenece es alguien con el que puedes contar emocionalmente, en esos momentos difíciles son seres los cuales pueden consolar e incluso animar, nos hacen sentir parte de un grupo que te aprecia, al estar en familia aprendemos y nos desarrollamos juntos, compartimos derrotas y victorias.
Todos tenemos una persona que se convierte en un familiar, aunque no lleve nuestra sangre, eso me hizo recordar Dani el día de hoy; cuando éramos niñas e íbamos a la escuela teníamos un compañero que era el más bajito del salón siempre llegaba sonriendo a clases, y más cuando nos reuníamos para hacer alguna actividad ya fuera académica o deportiva, alguien que cuando no estaba su presencia se notaba, su materia favorita eran las matemáticas, tanto que hacia lo posible por hacernos reír, una vez se levantó y fue a la pizarra a resolver un examen al cual ninguno entendíamos como resolverlo, su ocurrencia era: si la maestra tiene cinco manzanas y yo le quito dos le quedan siete, y nos reíamos porque pensábamos que era tonto pero, se empeñaba en hacernos reír, a todos nos decía hermanos o primos siempre estaba ahí para cualquiera de nosotros y la verdad su atención y su forma de ser nos unió como familia, nunca entendimos la palabra familia por elección hasta el día que Ender comenzó a ausentarse, faltaba mucho a clases siempre estaba distante, aunque no perdía la motivación y siempre nos motivaba a continuar, nos graduamos del colegio un día lluvioso, cuando todos estábamos molestos, su cara era de felicidad, él era un adolescente el cual ya sabía que quería de la vida, siempre aconsejando, nunca lo vimos triste en el liceo, después de unos meses sus ausencias eran más notables, y con todo y eso lo ayudábamos para colocarlo al corriente.
Entendimos a la edad de 11 años que la familia se apoya en las buenas o en las malas y eso hicimos, apoyarlo, ayudarlo y nuestra mayor sorpresa fue que aunque nos alentaba a siempre darle la cara a los problema y nunca rendirse, él le perdió la batalla a sus riñones, lo perdimos cuando tenía 12 años y nosotras 11 años, según el informe médico falleció por las complicaciones que causo la insuficiencia renal, aunque comprendíamos la realidad de la muerte, y aunque no éramos familia por consanguinidad, su muerte nos dolió como si hubiésemos perdido un hermano de sangre, era nuestro hermano por elección por afecto, gracias a ese niño que nunca creció aprendimos que los lazos que nos unen como familia son importantes para nuestro bienestar individual y social.
The ties that bind us as a family
When we come into the world, few of us are the people who grow up with our blood relatives. I don't remember where I read it, but blood doesn't always tie us together as family. There are ties and more logical things that bind us, and yes, blood ties us to our siblings, our parents, and even our cousins, not to mention our children. We also have those who are called legal relatives. This is where I say that we are few who grow up with blood relatives. Although it is not unfortunate, but rather a privilege to have those people who someone who is not of their blood adopts to give them a family. In this type of family, the ties with spouses also enter.
However, values such as respect, love, honesty and communication make us family not of everyone, but of those friends who, despite the circumstances and the factors, are always there for you no matter what happens. A relative, no matter what tie he belongs to, is someone you can count on emotionally. In those difficult moments they are beings who can comfort and even encourage. They make us feel part of a group that appreciates us. Being in a family we learn and develop together. We share defeats and victories.
We all have a person who becomes a relative, even if he does not carry our blood. That made me remember Dani today. When we were girls and went to school, we had a classmate who was the shortest in the room. He always came to class smiling. And even more when we got together to do some academic or sports activity. Someone who, when he was not there, his absence was noticed. His favorite subject was mathematics. So much so that he did everything possible to make us laugh. Once he got up and went to the blackboard to solve an exam that none of us knew how to solve. His idea was: if the teacher has five apples and I take away two, she has seven left. And we laughed because we thought he was stupid. But he insisted on making us laugh. He always told us brothers or cousins. He was always there for any of us. And the truth is that his attention and his way of being united us as a family. We never understood the word family by choice until the day Ender started to be absent. He was absent from class a lot. He was always distant. Although he never lost motivation and always motivated us to continue. We graduated from high school on a rainy day. When we were all upset, his face was of happiness. He was a teenager who already knew what he wanted in life. Always giving advice. We never saw him sad in high school. After a few months his absences were more noticeable. And even so we helped him to catch up.
We understood at the age of 11 that the family supports us in good times or in bad times. And that's what we did. Support him. Help him. And our biggest surprise was that, although he always encouraged us to always face the problems and never give up, he lost the battle to his kidneys. We lost him when he was 12 years old and we were 11 years old. According to the medical report, he died from the complications caused by renal failure. Although we understood the reality of death. And although we were not family by consanguinity, his death hurt us as if we had lost a brother of blood. He was our brother by choice, by affection. Thanks to that boy who never grew up, we learned that the ties that bind us as a family are important for our individual and social well-being.
Aprendemos a comprender a los demás y a nosotros como seres pertenecientes a un grupo social, nos volvemos más tolerables, aunque no masoquistas, un amigo es un familiar que comparte con nosotros aventuras, se vuelve un gran confidente y nos enseña que no todos son amigos y mucho menos leales, es un maestro el cual a su corta edad a vivido la vida muy diferente a como nosotros la vivimos, y por eso siempre nos aconseja por nuestro bien y aunque no llevan nuestra sangre, nos elegimos mutuamente para ayudarnos a afrontar los obstáculos de la vida.
Gracias y, gracias.
We learn to understand others and ourselves as beings belonging to a social group, we become more tolerant, although not masochists, a friend is a relative who shares adventures with us, becomes a great confidant and teaches us that not everyone is a friend and much less loyal, is a teacher who at his young age has lived life very differently than we live it, and that's why he always advises us for our good and even though they don't carry our blood, we choose each other to help us face the obstacles of life.
Thank you and, thank you.
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