Ladies Of Hive Community Contest 157: One thing that people misunderstood about me

Hello, Ladies Of Hive Community and other Hivers around the world!

For today's blog, it will be my entry for this week's contest here in this community. It's my first time posting here and participating in the contest held in this community and thanks to @merit.ahama for the interesting questions given.

One thing that people misunderstood about me

Me, being quite or silent

There are only two reasons why I am quite sometimes. It's when I need to have my own personal space and the second one is when I choose to keep quite rather than making argument with someone. As a person who doesn't like to talk much, I prefer to have my own company rather than socializing with other people who aren't close to me. Having this kind of behavior, people would often say I'm a snob, unapproachable or strict person. Hearing these comments from them made me wonder. Am I really strict? Does keeping quite and not socializing with those people who are new to me made me unapproachable to everyone's eyes? Or is it because I don't usually wear a smile to people who I encountered a few times only that is why they think that I'm not easy to be approached?

People who I came across to in the past would often say that I am a strict or unapproachable because I'm just at one corner being quite while others are busy talking, laughing and throwing jokes at each other. That is the reason why they hesitated to approach me first as they are afraid that I might snob them. But when they tried to talked and know me more, they would say that I was exactly the opposite of the person they think I am. They would say that I am kind and easy to talk to. But despite having people who finally discover who I really am, there are still others who would still think that way. Before I'm quite bothered with this misunderstanding that people have towards me but later on, I just let them think that way about me. I may have few people around me right now, but I'm thankful about it because I can protect myself from those people who would only take advantage of me when they would know who I really am. I am a soft hearted person, will understand people and get pity easily. These characteristics of mine are my weakness.

Another situation wherein I was misunderstood was when I choose to keep quite rather than fighting back with someone. It was way back 2012, I was having a little fight with my aunt because she accused me of something that I didn't do, question myself for not being a good mother to my eldest son and even said a hurtful words the next day when we went for a trip to Cebu to visit my elder sister. After few days of being with my sister, I thought my aunt had already forgotten her accusations towards me but she didn't. She nagged again after few days and since I was tired of proving myself to her so I just shut my mouth and let her nagged me because I thought that letting her let go of her emotions at that moment would make the situation better but I was wrong. After that nagging moment, the atmosphere felt different. It felt heavy so I decided to went to my father's house to stay there for a night just to give space to each other but she misunderstood my act. She reported it to my relatives in the province that I was disrespecting her and even told them that I'm a spoiled brat for acting that way. My other relatives believed her and that made me the villain. I had known about it when my grandma (father's side) told me about it and I also explained to her why I did that thing. If there's someone who understands and knows me well, it's my grandma because she was there since I was small. She knew that I am not someone who talked back to other people especially to the elders even if sometimes they already insulted me. She knew that quite side of mine and I'm happy and grateful to know that even if the world doesn't believe me as long as I know that there's one person who believe in me that's already enough for me.

Fights and misunderstandings are part of a married life. Not all the time we share the same ideas so most likely there are some misunderstandings along the way and we are one of those couples who argued sometimes. We argued over some little things. To avoid worsening the situation, I tend to keep quiet because I know if I talk back to him those small things will become bigger. But this act was misunderstood by my husband as he interpret it as an insult act for ignoring his complains and nagging. When his head had cooled down, that's when I explained to him why I wasn't talking back to him and he finally get that attitude of mine. He then knows why I suddenly gave him a silent treatment.

That's all for today's blog. Thanks for reading.

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